Mom cancels Thanksgiving after surviving the past 3 years of her sister-in-law's spoiled toddler wreaking havoc on everyone: ‘She poured a drink over my husband's head!’

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  • "Child poured drink over an adult's head at Thanksgiving"

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  • I am the asshole? This year, I refused to go to thanksgiving with my husbands family after several years of problems.
  • Four years ago, thanksgiving was at my house. A young child age 4 in the family was throwing things in the pool and kicking the family dogs.
  • The next year, age 5 she was still trying to throw things in the pool but we removed the items she could get to.
  • She tried any other items we allowed her to have and was creative at finding things to throw.
  • Then two years ago, age 6, she kicked the dogs again, pretended to puke up food when asked to eat to avoid eating, saw that she had dog poop on her shoes and was laughing at the poop foot prints and when adults discovered it, she ran to a bed to jump in it, and finally she poured a drink over my husbands head for no reason and when my brother in law tried talking to her, the child started fake crying and the girls mom started yelling at all of us adults for somehow hurting her baby.
  • That ended the day! The child and her mom were picked up from that Thanksgiving by the little girls grandpa and he was borrowing my car and I decided to ask for it back becuase the next day the grandpa called my husband and said "we are not going to discuss this" and then later in the convo asked my hubby to borrow money.
  • He had my car for over 4 months and when I asked for it back I gave him two months to get his stuff together.
  • I refuse to host after that and told the girls grandpa when he called to discuss money mattters in June on my birthday (he has big money problems, commits fraud, he called because he was trying to get more sales from my business but he was cut off for committing fraud) and I told him that his daughter (the mother) inappropriately yelled at all of us and he's caused me so many problems at work.
  • Of course, after me speaking the truth the mother deleted me on social media. Then last year, age 7, she talked bad about me to my children at another family members house.
  • This year, I did not participate and my husband is upset. Rightfully so but I just can't keep doing this.....
  • I know she's a child but it's just toooo much and I want to stay away from the mother and grandpa.
  • The mother has also been caught shoplifting.
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  • oneangrywidow Why in gawds name did you ever keep associating after the poop day? Or the car theft? The fraud? Honestly, you should have gone NC years ago. ESH, you for letting that real life Chucky doll back into house year after year, and everyone else for, well, everything.
  • Longjumping-Snow-431 I would tell your husband that I will not interact with any family member related to these incidents. They have committed fraud, caused harm to you and your family, reputation, business and financially. Tell him the fact that even after all this he wants to be in contact with them after all this is a problem. I would go NC, and if wouldn't attend any event if they will be there. Thats your boundary!
  • Tipsy_Gamer "Husband is upset, understandably so" No. It is not understandable for him to be upset at YOU.
  • Stoic_STFU Dafug did I just read.... You have not mentioned a reason to be around any of these people, for any reason - and I use the term people loosely given the behavior you witnessed. You need to take your car back before he does something to it. and your husband needs to stop enabling and finding these miscreants. ΝΤΑ
  • billybobjenk That drink-over-the-head moment would've been my final straw too, especially with her mom backing her up every time she acts out.
  • This WeekInTheRegency 'This year, I did not participate and my husband is upset' Your husband needs to wake up to himself and deal with this dumpster fire of a family himself. NTA. Cut them all off.
  • madelynorion23 She's 8 now and still hasn't learned consequences because mom won't parent. This will only get worse. This fam has boundary issues across the board... fraud, stealing your car, shoplifting, zero discipline. One chaotic. Thanksgiving a year isn't worth your mental health.
  • cassowary32 Does any one in your family have a spine? How did he get your car keys? Did you not have a spare or know where he lives? How did he keep it for months?? WTF is happening in this family?? The girl needs serous help, and you might need a therapist.
  • Exotic-Rooster4427 What does your husband feel about this? You've said he is unhappy that you didn't attend but what are his thoughts on the behaviour? I feel this is more a red flag about husband's behaviour than anything else

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