'$1k missing from my safe': Betrayed woman discovers that her sister stole $1,000 from her safe while hosting Thanksgiving dinner, so she considers skipping their family Christmas to avoid seeing her, despite family pressure to “forgive and forget”

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Emma Saven
Dec 19, 2025 8:00 PM EST

Whether you're a multi-millionaire or rely on your pocket change to make it through the month, no one deserves to be stolen from, especially by their own family members. One penny or one thousand dollars both represent the same idea: an emphasis on dishonesty and betrayal. So when this woman learns that during Thanksgiving dinner, her own sister secretly snuck into her safe, and stole $1k, she was beyond disappointed…Not angry, not aggressive, disappointed. Because when you grow up braiding someone's hair and helping them get into their tutu's, you do not expect that years later, they will intentionally try to deceive you.

Now she's struggling to look her thief-labelled sister in the eyes, and it's beginning to affect their whole family this holiday season. As this woman simply can't commit to attending Christmas Day, knowing her sister will be present. What makes it even more difficult is that her parents are pushing her to take the path of forgiveness, when all she really wants to do is snuggle up on her couch with a cup of cocoa and never think about her sister ever again!

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  • If this sister was in desperate need of money around the holidays, she should've just asked. Instead, so chose to create an in-family court case that brought about a lot of awkward conversations, resentment, and distance between family…Quite the opposite of what the holiday season should represent!

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    Woman holding a pile of 10 dollar bills
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    WIBTA for not going to family Christmas after my sister attempted to steal from me over Thanksgiving?

    I'm a 40+ female. I hosted Thanksgiving dinner @my house this year & organized 4 vans for us to take shopping on Black Friday.
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    My mother & sister (R is my older sister) stayed over @ my house rather than getting hotel rooms.
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    R went with me when I zeroed the balance on my Christmas $ account on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving
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    When we got home put it in the safe. She was with me when I opened the safe.
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    When I went to take the $ out on Friday I found that it was gone!
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    $1k missing from my safe (in my closet, in my room.) So I went out into the living room where everyone was gathering to get ready for shopping & announced that my Christmas $ had been stolen.
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    My mother immediately said "R give your sister back her $ right now." R protested for a bit that it wasn't her who had taken it.
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    So I took my guests into my closet one @ a time. R was the only who was able to the safe & she did it on the first try.
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    The others were all family members who actually live near by & are over often. How it is that they couldn't open it despite being in my home weekly but she could after staying a few nights is definitely weird.
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    This year our younger sister (we'll call her T) is hosting Christmas. T called to ask when I would be arriving & I told her that I'm still thinking about whether or not to come.
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    T told our mother who is now on me to "forgive & forget" because R wasn't successful in stealing the $.
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    She clarified that if R had gotten away with she could understand but I got my $ back so why make a fuss?
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    Because I don't want to stay in a house with a thief who would steal from her own family.
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    I'm not heartless: I still got Christmas presents for all of her kids/grandkids & had them mailed to Ts house.
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    It's not their fault that their mother/grandma is a thief so they shouldn't be punished. So WIBTA if I skipped family Christmas because my sister tried to steal $ from me?
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    Salty Signature_3472 She stole from you. You never said if she gave a reason or apologized. She is lucky you didnt call the police. NTA
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    OP Imme_notu She said that she didn't think that I would notice it/care because "you pulled out $1k, who does that?" So basically she thinks that I have so much $ I wouldn't miss it? Which is absolutely bonkers.
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    Possible_Raspberry75 She didn't think you'd notice the money was gone?
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    OP Imme_notu She found out that she earns about 1/4 of what I do. Since she thinks that I'm flush with $ that I could just go & get more. Or use a credit card which I cancelled after the card number got stolen
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    lidder444 I suggest you get a second lockbox/ safe for valuables and money. Only keep the original one for paperwork your family can access.
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    lidder444 DO NOT EVER TELL ANYONE THE COMBINATION TO A SAFE. DON'T EVEN TELL ANYONE YOU HAVE ONE. Seriously
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    OP Imme_notu All of my siblings have safes. Our mother taught us to keep our paperwork in a lockbox or safe. We all know where each other's safes are too. Plus my cousins have to know about because of the POA paperwork. But I will never let anyone into the room when I open ot again.
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    MildLittlRain NTA, but why not just keep money in a bank account? Keeping cash is so outdated
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    greeneyesonly She didn't fail at stealing. She stole from you, then was forced to return it. NTA
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