Disney adult mother purchases Disney tickets for soon-to-be-wed daughter and her family, despite being asked not to for years: 'We really can’t afford this trip’

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    a statue of walk disney and mickey mouse in front of disney castle
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    "My mom bought my family Disney tickets for Christmas and I’m annoyed."

    Ok THT fam, in need of some advice and opinions. I feel a bit bratty for feeling this way but hear me out.
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    Some context, I am 35f with two kids, 4m and 2f. My partner, 33m, and I have been together 10 years.
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    We are getting married in May. My parents (both mid 50s) are Disney adults. They go to Disneyland 3-4 times a year and are annual pass holders.
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    I enjoy watching the movies with my kids, but I wouldn't be considered a Disney super fan.
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    From the moment our son was born 4 years ago, my mom has been trying to convince us to take him to Disneyland.
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    Then our daughter came two years later the Disney badgering only got worse. We have told my parents for all these years, "No.
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    We don't want to bring our kids until they are older, can travel easier, and we can all enjoy ourselves more." Disneyland is expensive and we don't want to pay a bunch of money to spend three days with screaming, tired toddlers.
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    We live in Northern California so we could drive the 8 hours, or fly. Either way sounds stressful and expensive.
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    Well, yesterday my mom sent me a text of Disney e- tickets, "Merry Christmas!" Three tickets for my son, partner, and myself for three days.
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    disneyland park-goer cards
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    My daughter is free. I was a little shocked at first, neither happy nor upset. Just "wow!" I of course thanked her but was stuck in the mindset of "this was very generous..
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    but not thought out at all." The tickets expire in May, our wedding is in May.
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    We are paying for most of the wedding ourselves. The tickets are non refundable. She also only paid for tickets.
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    So we are now stuck in a position to have to pay for all our wedding expenses, plus come up with the thousands of dollars it would cost to travel, stay, and eat in Disneyland.
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    We don't have disposable income. I am a stay at home mom and my partner works in construction.
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    My mom and I have always had a rocky relationship. She is an attention seeker with victim mentality.
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    She is often dramatic or "extra." Her and my dad have a history of gaslighting and lying.
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    My childhood also wouldn't be considered a delight. I'm not sure where this grand gesture is coming from other than her trying to force. us to take a trip SHE wants us to take.
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    So that's why I am annoyed at being gifted Disney tickets. It's an extremely inconvenient time for us to take a big trip.
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    Also, it feels like it is a gift for her, not actually for us. Am I being ungrateful?
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    We really can afford this trip. I'm not sure what to do. Do I tell her we can't go?
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    Do I try to figure out a cheap way to take the trip? Part of me feels very guilty for being annoyed, but the other part of me is thinking "wtf mom?
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    Did you consider our situation at all?" Thanks, THT!
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    divine apprehension Nta. Sell them. Wait til the kids are older.... Family vacations are about the family lol sorry about your pushy parents but try to make the best of it
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    SnuggleWinnk Agreed. Family comes first, and vacations should actually be enjoyable for everyone. Selling them and waiting makes total sense.
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    No_Season_354 Have to agree, total lack of understanding by ur mom, after u told her u didn't want to go to Disney, that should have been enough, like u I say u have to cover additional costs.
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    LilacPoppie This is what would bother me too. OP, you were clear for years about not wanting to do Disney right now, so this wasn't a misunderstanding. It sounds like she planned the trip she wanted and handed you the bill for everything else. Feeling annoyed doesn't make you ungrateful, it makes you realistic.

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