Entitled neighbor demands homeowners stop letting their dogs out, despite having a fully fenced yard, homeowners refuse, then ignore neighbor's texts altogether: ‘That’s my prerogative'

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  • Should I tell my neighbor directly that I'll be ignoring her texts moving forward?

    Bought a house with a large fenced yard because we value our space, hobbies, having friends over, allowing our pets to run etc.
  • It's a wonderful space. From the get go our next door neighbor has been very high maintenance.
  • It started over the summer with text complaints about "talking loudly" at 10pm on the weekend- my husband and I sitting on our back porch chatting.
  • Then music complaints in the middle of the day. Admittedly we sometimes play loud music inside, but I'm not going to not do that in my home.
  • We are thoughtful of the time, we're not bumping it at 2am. Then complaints about our dogs barking at 4am- it wasn't our dogs.
  • It was dogs across the street. She refused to believe this and insisted we slept through our dogs barking loudly- they sleep in our room.
  • Then requests that we keep our dogs inside when she had guests over- the dogs do bark when people come and go but for 30 seconds max.
  • I again refused, its our fenced yard so if we want to have our dogs out there during the day that's my prerogative- right?
  • I would understand if they were barking non stop or jumping at the fence but they don't do that.
  • Finally the last few days I've been painting our walls, and the dogs have been out most of the day.
  • Again- fully fenced yard, cared for dogs, it's 55 degrees and sunny, everyone is happy. She's repeatedly texted me that I should bring the dogs in because she "sees them." That's the reason.
  • They barked for about 30 seconds at a passerby and she texts "do you hear your dog's barking?" My question is- should I tell her planely and clearly that I'm no longer going to be reading or responding to her messages, or should I just silently ignore her?
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  • I've tried to be a good neighbor and explain myself to her, but I'm totally over it by now.
  • It's relevant that our physical homes are at minimum 50 feet away from each other and the fence line is still at least 20 feet from her home.
  • We're not even that close! Edit: I love how controversial this one got- thanks all for their input.
  • I think this highlights a bit of a variance in viewing neighborhood living. I really expect to hear things. like barking dogs, kids screaming and playing, people living their lives, talking, band practice, cars driving, music, even the occasional weekend party.
  • I think those things are normal, acceptable parts of neighborhood living. I also respect that some people don't, but I also feel that if that's the case you may need to curate your life in a particular way.
  • Maybe an HOA or a town with strict ordinances. I understand why some people find that appealing.
  • But I do not, so I bought a large lot just barely outside of city limits (we still have county ordinances!) I don't think I'm a bad neighbor and never had complaints from previous neighbors (in a much closer and packed in environment, no less.) Anyhow.
  • I'm gonna ignore her. Maybe I'll report back with how things go later this year considering we're planning to get chickens in the spring and have a baby coming in mid summer :) Ok last edit- her complaint about music was not like bumping edm from my house, it was my husband and (funny enough) another neighbor playing acoustic (guitar, banjo, mandolin) in the back yard.
  • We play music in the house but I don't think she can't hear it and she's never mentioned it- i mentioned it in my post as like a yes i do that in my home but it feels reasonable to me thing but i get that that was unclear.
  • Houses are newer, well insulated. When i say I've tried to be a good neighbor i mean that We've responded to her previous complaints with understanding and by moving as far away from her home to chat/ play when outside- even during the day.
  • I think more than anything her tone and meaness and now the weirdness about my dogs existing outside in the yard designed for them had really been the last straw for me.

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