Husband lies about being vegan to his vegan wife for 11 years, 3-year-old granddaughter exposes his meat eating behind her grandma's back: 'She asked why she doesn’t come eat steak with me at their house.'

He shouldn't have lied, but she shouldn't have insisted that he go vegan.

It's understandable to want to live in a household where everyone has similar dietary restrictions. I've seen online posts soliciting roommates who exclusively want to live with someone who is also gluten-free, kosher, or vegan, and I totally understand that. If you are gluten-free for health reasons, you can get sick from using the same toaster as someone who is not gluten-free. Let's be honest, who wants to have two toasters in their house? Roommates often share basic ingredients, and it's annoying to have to constantly double-check whether you're using the kosher ketchup or your roommates' decidedly non-kosher ketchup. Some vegans have ethical problems with living in a house with meat eaters. That's all well and good when you live by yourself or with roommates, but what about when you're married to a meat-eater?

In marriage, you're more willing to compromise and buy two toasters if that's what you need to do to keep both of you happy. It's not advisable to force your partner into a diet they have no interest in, even if you sincerely believe in it or need to follow it for health reasons. Forcing a diet on your partner might breed resentment in the relationship, and if they aren't committed to the diet, it might make it harder for you to stay committed. Food is deeply personal for everyone, and very few adults will give up the foods they've enjoyed for their entire lives because their partner decided to go vegan or cut out all sugar. It is easier to maintain a strict diet if "tempting" foods aren't in the house, but dieters should be committed enough to their dietary restrictions to handle their husband keeping cured meats in the home.

The wife in this story insisted that her husband go vegan, and he wasn't willing to fight her on that. Instead, he hid his meat-eating from her for 11 years, and now that she found him out, he's wondering if he was in the wrong.
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