Employee resigns, upper management fails to convince him to stay after refusing to relinquish in-person office requirement: 'They know very well I've been unhappy for 10 months'

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  • A stressed businessman places his hands on his head in frustration.
  • "My manager won't stop nagging me for details after I submitted my resignation"

    I submitted my resignation two days ago and I'm supposed to leave in three weeks. I had a quick word with my manager, and then I sent him the official resignation email and looped in HR so everything is documented.
  • All I said was that my last day would be on a certain date, and I kept it simple and professional.
  • After that, I started getting DMs and emails from my manager and even his manager, asking to 'set up a time to talk this week, maybe even today?'.
  • They also stressed that the matter should be kept secret and that I shouldn't tell anyone from the rest of the team for now.
  • And I found my manager had scheduled a meeting at 9 AM today. As soon as I joined, he started asking me about the reasons for my resignation and what they could have done differently.
  • I tried to keep my response generic and told him I found 'another job that is a better fit for me,' but he latched onto it and kept nagging for details.
  • Honestly, the whole thing is very frustrating, because they know very well why I'm leaving. I had told them I would be working from home for the rest of my notice period, and would only come to the office on my last day to return the laptop and my things.
  • But today my manager sent me a message saying they need me to come into the office 3 days next week, which is honestly insane.
  • Has this happened to anyone before? I'm just trying to understand what they're thinking... Especially since they know very well I've been unhappy for 10 months.
  • A stressed businessman places his hands on his head in frustration.
  • Twistybaconagain Former HR professional here. DO NOT give him any info. Keep it strictly generic. I honestly don't know his motivations but nobody is THAT anxious for good reasons. Especially if you have to keep it a secret.
  • brat_simpson >But today my manager sent me a message saying they need me to come into the office 3 days next week And if you don't? What are they gonna do, fire you?
  • Special-Original-215 Your manager wants to pry out your new job info so he can torpedo it
  • nickisfractured Never get into dirty laundry and always say it's because of pay so hopefully the friends you still have there get a bump to deal with whatever bs they won't resolve anyway even if you complained about it.
  • Clown_Penis69 Have bosses reacted poorly when people have quit before? Yes.
  • brainybrink If they already know you were unhappy then you can simply stick with the vague talk track you have been saying. You can always throw in that your opinions on the current role and what you're ultimately looking for are the same in what was discussed in your prior 1:1s etc. Let your boss know you'll continue to work from home until you return your equipment. RTO 3x a week doesn't work for you but if there are certain people he would like you to meet with to pass off work you will put Z
  • Marneman1965 maybe there is a legitimate reason to understand your motivations to leave to ensure that they improve the culture. exit interviews are normal and good practice. If you have legitimate feedback you should share it to them if they are asking. Just an opinion.
  • Otherwise-Weekend-21 Had this happen to me before. There is NOTHING positive that can come out of this. Whatever their motives are it's not good. Had a toxic boss follow my LinkedIn for two months. He even started looking at my wife's linked in.
  • MeesaMadeMeDolt I saw a life pro tip once that said no matter what reason you're actually leaving for, when they ask for a reason, say it's the pay.
  • LaLaLaLaLaLaLaLaLa- You are absolutely under no obligation to share your next steps with management. Provide a them with a plan to turnover your in-flight projects. I can't stress this next part I enough: Document. Document. Document. Every. Single. Thing. If you are in a one party state, record your interactions. Tell them to send you a FedEx label so that you can return your laptop, badge, mobile device, etc without having to come into the office at all. (Your access should be deleted anyway,
  • A stressed businessman with glasses on places his hands on his head in frustration.

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