Entitled family refuses to let daughter take the cat she raised from kittenhood with her when moving out, claiming the cat is their property: 'Casper was a gift for me'

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    [Am I wrong] for wanting to take our cat with me after my marriage?

    Woman holding a black kitten including ''They have 3 months to make their peace with the fact that Casper is coming with me''
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    Hi, this issue has lead to fights in my house the past week, and at this point I thought I'll ask here.
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    I'm going to get married in a few months, and currently live with my parents. 6 years ago my aunt had gifted me my cat for my 18th when he was a kitten. She knew I loved cats, I'd always wanted one so that was her gift and it was the best gift I've ever received. I was the
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    one who organized his diet, litter trained him, named him Casper, got him to respond to his name, had him snuggle with me, had huge arguments with my parents in the initial days over him and defended him. Over time Casper became an integral part of our family.
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    Last week we were just planning on how to start moving my stuff to my fiance's place and I also brought up his cat tree. My younger sister was like why would you take his cat tree you're not taking Casper. I said ofcourse I am, he's my cat, and my fiance loves
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    cats too, I'd already discussed this with him. My parents too were against taking him, and my sister started full on sobbing. I was beside myself, and we had an argument, I told them Casper was a gift for me, I had raised him when he was a kitten, and I
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    brought up to my parents how they used to say he's too much work and a mess in the earlier days. Since then whenever the topic has been brought up my sister gets heated, my parents low key side
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    wirh her saying Casper is used to the house and cats are creatures of habit, I've told them they have 3 months to make their peace with the fact that Casper is coming with me.
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    Family with a cat
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    Edit: To address some frequent questions. My college was in the same city we live in, as is my job. I commuted to college from home. And no, my fiance and I haven't been living together.
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    The first time my dad and I took him to the vet he was registered under my name. Until I got a job after college, I would do his expenditures with my pocket money and my parents would also pay. Since I've been working, I do the bulk of spending on him, but my parents do too.
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    My sister is 17. And yes we'll be living in the same city she'll be seeing him often. Its the fact that my parents are siding with her and not even just to support her but of their own accord, they too have been saying Casper should stay here. I'll try to bring up them adopting a new cat.
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    INFO: At the end of the day, what's best for the cat? If Casper is your shadow when you're around, and would pine without you, then the only decision is to take Casper with.
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    If Casper is now closer to your parents or sister now, or prefers to hang out it a certain spot in the house over and above spending time with you, then Casper should stay at the house.
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    Does Casper ever get anxious, show signs of separation anxiety or depression when you're not at home? Like if you go away for a few days? What about if Casper gets taken away from the house, like for trips to the vet? How does Casper cope in those scenarios?
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    Also, does your fiance have any other animals that Casper have to acclimatise to? Has your fiance spent much time with Casper? Is Casper comfortable with them? If you can get a clear answer from asking these questions, then this should make the decision easy.
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    Author's response:

    Thanks a lot for this (a bit begrudgingly because you've made me rethink stuff lol). I love Casper, and I know he'll be happy with me. And I know my family loves him too and he knows he's loved. I'll think over this.
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    NTA. Get your aunt to confirm Casper was a gift for you. End of issue. Casper is your property. He is attached to YOU, not your parent's home. He will adapt just fine to your new place as long as you are there.
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    Who is Casper's person? Who does he snuggle with, meow for, sleep with, etc.? We have two cats and they have chosen different people in our family to be their person.
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    Will the other house have other pets Casper has to live with? Will he have to leave any other pets that he has grown up with this whole time? All of this should go into determining if Casper's home is with you at the new place, or the place he has lived his whole life.
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    Happy woman laughs as her cat plays in a box during unpacking.
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    NTA. What do those people not understand about a gift? About your property? Is there a chance your aunt would weigh in on this, in your favor? "Cats are creatures of habit." And also clever, adaptable creatures. (Last year I happily rehomed a family of three cats, not
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    mine, to a new owner and different premises.) It's low of your family to pretend they're worried about the cat's happiness when they just want to steal your aunt's gift. Here's a wild idea: they could get themselves a cat of their own and keep their mitts off of yours.
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    Author's response:

    Yes, I can 100% have my aunt confirm Casper was a gift for me! She used to have a cat when I was little and I would be so happy to go to her place when I was little to see her cat! Thats why she gifted me Casper.

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