Woman working remotely demands her boyfriend enforce a "no Fortnite voice-chat until after 5 pm" rule, after his 7-year-old son constantly yells during her working hours, sparking conflict when he fails to do so: 'I’m tired of being the enforcer'

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  • Young boy shouting while playing with the gaming console
  • AITAH for asking my boyfriend to enforce a “no Fortnite voice chat until after 5pm” rule for his kid while we both work from home?

    I (27F) live with my boyfriend (40M) in a small 2 bed / 2.5 bath townhouse.
  • We both work from home full-time. His 13 year old daughter and 7 year old son stays with us a lot of the time.
  • Space is tight, walls are thin, and sound carries. The issue is his son plays Fortnite from the moment he wakes up until bedtime.
  • He uses voice chat and because he has headphones blocking his hearing, he yells. Like full volume, excited screaming into the mic for hours on end.
  • I love his kid, he's a good kid, this isn't about me disliking him. But it's become a really intense sensory overload situation while trying to work... it's not background noise, it's literally the entire audio landscape of the house all day when he's here.
  • I've tried bringing it up multiple times and nothing changed for months. We finally agreed on a boundary: no Fortnite voice chat until after 5pm (when the work day is over).
  • He can still play Fortnite during the day, just without the voice chat yelling. The problem is my boyfriend keeps letting it slide.
  • I keep having to remind him about the rule and I'm tired of being the enforcer.
  • It's been "agreed on" but I'm the only one actually holding the boundary. Meanwhile I'm sitting there trying to take work calls with Fortnite yelling echoing through the house.
  • Stressed employee with a handache
  • For context, we don't have a basement, den, or garage setup. There's no alternate kid
  • It's literally the whole house. I don't think it's healthy for a 7 year old to be gaming for 8-12 hours anyway, but even setting that aside, I feel like I'm going insane listening to Fortnite voice chat all day while trying to work.
  • My boyfriend says it's hard because the kid gets bored and this keeps him occupied while we work.
  • I get that, but I don't think "boredom mitigation" should come at the cost of my ability to work and not feel like I'm at a Fortnite tournament.
  • So AITAH for asking him to enforce the rule we already agreed on? Or am I being unreasonable about the noise and should just suck it up?
  • Equivalent Lemon_319 Why is this kid not at school
  • Alert_Individual_105 Original Poster's Reply Ice storm closures atm. But same thing happens on sick days, holidays, early release, teacher work days, and weekends. On regular school days he's gone until 3, so the 5pm rule is easy. It's all the non school days where it turns into an all day Fortnite yelling marathon while we're trying to work.
  • Alert_Individual_105 Original Poster's Reply I really appreciate all the responses. I just want to add a little context because this leaned hard into breakup advice. I love my boyfriend and our relationship is solid, the part that's been hard for me is adjusting to living with his kids and both of us. working from home in a small space. His son isn't talking to random adults online either. His voice chat is friends only, his friends list is monitored by my boyfriend, and any new friend has to be
  • Victory Appropriate68 "it's hard because the kid gets bored and this keeps him occupied while we work." the classic | cant be bothered to parent so this will do. Not okay, NTA. and if it kept happening, the game console would be gone. Rules are rules, no excuse for lazy parenting
  • Wonderful_You8862 Why is a 27-year old woman settling for a manchild who has no authority over his own children? They aren't your children. Go find a guy your age to have your own children with.
  • Tension between young couple sitting awkwardly on the couch
  • EnrollmentTime Super unhealthy to play a video game 12 hours + a day?
  • Significant-Heart777 Do you realize this life will be your life for next 10 years? You may raise the kids but are you allowed to punish or disciple them? Your boyfriend looks like he doesn't want you as a mother for his kids. Find a young and single man.
  • TrashGouda NTA I would even say no voice chat for a 7yr old at all. A 7ry old shouldn't talk to stranger online at all. You NEVER know if it's actually another child or not since voice filters exist.
  • Ilovewally It is likely you will always be over ruled in favor of his children's comfort

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