27-year-old calls out boyfriend for telling how to act in front of his friends: 'He literally told me to be myself and then shushed me when I tried'

• This is a moment that is always extremely indicative of the future. Sure, sometimes, first impressions aren't everything, but they do inevitably matter. How your partner behaves around you in public and how they interact with the people you care about says everything about who they really are. A decent partner should want to get to know their significant other's friends. They should take an active interest in their lives, values, and beliefs, and they should eventually feel comfortable sharing their true selves as well.

  This 27-year-old woman had been dating her boyfriend, who is two years older than her, for a few months. The time had arrived for her to meet his group of buddies. He told her that she just needed to be herself around them, but as soon as she tried doing that, he silenced her. The rest of the night was not only as awkward as it could have been, but now, the future of their entire relationship is at risk. As I said, how both parties behave when partners introduce themselves to their significant other's mates is a key indicator of how the whole relationship is going to pan out.

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• The crazy part is that the whole night went south because of a silly joke about a television show. The author thought she found an opportunity to chime in, since the whole group was talking about a show she had seen. For whatever reason, her boyfriend did not like the joke and tried to discreetly tell her to stifle her words. He didn't explain why she had seemingly crossed a line.

  Our guess is that he didn't have anything to contribute to the conversation himself and suddenly felt threatened by her, albeit brief, level of comfort at the table. The only person responsible for making the rest of the night as cringeworthy as possible was him, all because of a meaningless joke he didn't understand. 

• "Be yourself' but also 'don’t joke' so I stayed silent all night

  
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