Entitled boyfriend tries to prevent his girlfriend from taking a promotion, but she refuses to let him drag her down: ‘This opportunity means something to me’

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  • A young businesswoman stands in her office holding a clipboard.
  • "AITAH for accepting a promotion my boyfriend doesn't want me to take because he says it'll change our relationship"

    I got offered a promotion at work. A real one. Not a lateral move not a fancy new title with the same pay.
  • An actual step up. More responsibility better money and honestly something Ive been grinding toward for a long time.
  • When they told me I almost cried in the meeting because Ive wanted this for years.
  • I came home that night so excited to tell my boyfriend. Thought hed be happy for me.
  • Thought wed celebrate. Maybe open a bottle of wine and talk about what this could mean for our future together.
  • Instead he got quiet. Then he started asking questions. But not excited questions. Worried ones. Like how many more hours are you gonna be working.
  • Does this mean no more spontaneous weekends. Are you gonna be stressed all the time now.
  • He said this isnt the life I pictured for us. The life HE pictured. Not the life WE talked about.
  • The life he decided we were supposed to have. Which apparently involves me staying exactly where I am professionally so that things stay comfortable and easy for him.
  • He keeps talking about how he wants a simple life. Less stress. Less ambition. More time just hanging out and being chill.
  • And I get that. I love our chill time too. But Im also a person with goals and this opportunity means something to me.
  • Its not just about money its about me feeling like Im actually going somewhere. I tried to reassure him.
  • Told him a promotion doesnt mean I turn into some corporate robot who never comes home.
  • I said wed figure out the balance together. I asked him to trust me that I can handle more responsibility without abandoning our relationship.
  • He wasnt hearing it. He said hed seen it happen before with other couples and that once one person starts climbing the ladder the relationship always suffers.
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  • He said he didnt sign up for that. Didnt sign up for what. For me succeeding?
  • For me wanting more than what I have right now? That part really stung. Every time I bring up anything work related he gets this look on his face like Im already choosing my job over him just by being excited about it.
  • And I feel like I cant even be happy about this huge thing that happened to me because his reaction has completely overshadowed it I havent officially accepted yet but I know Im going to.
  • And I think he knows it too which is probably why things feel so weird between us right now.
  • AITAH for taking this even though he doesnt want me to?

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