Employee gets cousin hired in same tech company department, humbles him when he tries too hard to compete: 'Maybe focus on your own KPIs'

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  • Am I wrong for humbling my cousin who won't stop making everything a competition at work?

    So, I work at a mid- sized tech firm. About six months ago, my cousin, Leo, got hired in the same department.
  • We grew up together and were always cool, so I actually helped him prep for the interview.
  • Big mistake. Ever since he started, it's like he's on a mission to prove he's the main character.
  • I'm not a competitive guy at all, I just want to do my 9-to-5, get my paycheck, and go home.
  • But Leo is constantly doing this weird one- upping thing. If I finish a report early, he'll announce to the whole breakroom how he finished his and helped someone else with theirs.
  • The worst part is that he's started using our personal history as office banter to make me look incompetent.
  • Last week, we were in a meeting with our supervisor, and Leo randomly brought up a story from when I was 19 and messed up a simple DIY project at home.
  • A man stands in the background with his arms crossed as another man, sitting at a table with a laptop, talks to a woman also sitting at the table
  • He framed it as a funny joke about why I shouldn't be trusted with the new hardware rollout.
  • Everyone laughed, but it felt super snakey. He also spends half his time gossiping about our other coworkers to me, then turns around and tells them advice I supposedly gave him about their work performance.
  • It's creating this toxic vibe where people think I'm judging them behind their backs. Yesterday, I finally snapped.
  • We were at lunch with a few team members and he started in on how he's carrying the weight of our specific project because I'm too laid back.
  • I didn't yell, but I stayed very quiet and just said: Leo, the only reason you even knew this job existed is because I handed you the referral.
  • Maybe focus on your own KPIs instead of trying to rewrite my history for the team.
  • It got incredibly awkward. He turned bright red and later texted me saying I humiliated him in front of the colleagues he's trying to impress and that I'm being a j because he was just joking around.
  • I don't think I'm the j for setting a boundary, but the silence in the office today is making me second-guess if I should have just handled it privately.
  • A man stands over another man sitting at a table with his laptop, talking to him, while two other seated people watch
  • Sad-Anything-8249 some ppl don't see a ladder, they see a human stepping stone. you didn't humble him, you just stopped being the floor.
  • Downtown_Row_5809 NTJ. The 'it was just a joke' line is the universal calling card of someone who got caught being a snake. He played high stakes game and lost.
  • cassievoid NTJ. He was crossing every line using your past to embarrass you, gossiping, and one-upping nonstop. Calling him out in front of the team wasn't cruel, it was setting a boundary. Sometimes family needs a reality check, especially when they act toxic at work.
  • Legitimate_Fact_609 the fact that he's running to his mom bc his big corporate persona got cracked by a single sentence of truth says everything you need to know.
  • Dry Needleworker 10 he's mad bc u broke the cool cousin seal and showed the team his actual stats. don't apologize for facts.
  • InternationalAct593 lol the fact that he's texting u about humiliation instead of saying that he's sorry. he's not sorry he did it, he's sorry it didn't work.
  • DuckAxe0 NTJ He is extremely dangerous to your career.

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