25-year-old kicks his 35-year-old homeless brother out of his house after he flirts with his 25-year-old wife

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Mar 19, 2026 8:00 AM EDT

He didn't even want to house his brother, who has failed to launch in the most spectacular way. The only reason he was living with his younger brother was that their parents had kicked him out of their house, and they begged him to deal with him.

If you are a kind-hearted individual, it can be easy to find yourself getting taken advantage of by family members and friends who will walk over anyone to get what they want. You might see the best in everyone, and never think that someone you've known and loved for decades upon decades would betray you by trashing the house you let them live in for free when they're going through a difficult period of their life. Unfortunately, you can't always predict when somebody will take advantage of you, so you have to be the one to protect yourself first. 

If you've been burned once, you're much less likely to be burned again. If someone lets a drifter friend of theirs sleep on their couch for 6 months and discovers that they've been stealing money from them the entire duration of their stay, there's a good chance they won't let anyone else stay over at their house for a prolonged period of time like that ever again. They might trust their college-student sister or their chronically employed cousin more than they trust their "friend," but they know that if they make the same mistake twice, it will be unequivocally their fault this time. 

Even if you know that someone cannot be trusted to live rent-free in your home without trashing it and making the residents' lives miserable, it can be challenging to say no to someone who is desperately begging for help you aren't going to give. 

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  • Am I the bad guy for kicking my brother out for flirting with my wife?

    My 25m wife 25f have been together since high school, she's sweet, smart, soft, shy, and fiercely loyal, and this situation just proves that.
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  • I love her more than anything, she's the love of my life. My brother 35m recently got kicked out my parents, because he's never worked a real job, just weird low paying nonsense, and recently quiet another one of those weird low paying nonsense jobs.
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  • My parents understandably lectured him again, and he lost his cr p, from what my mum told me.
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  • He was gonna gonna be homeless so my parents begged me to let him live with me for a while.
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  • I decided to help, my wife also deciding that maybe we could help him. The conditions where that, he'd clean his room, look for a job, and not be a lazy
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  • My wife and I both work from home so we'd be with him the entire day.
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  • 6 days ago, my wife came to me, and told me, he was flirting with her, like not just saying she's pretty, but more like telling her, he'd give her a better life, and telling her him.
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  • She insulted him quite badly by calling him a useless, old man thats nearly 40, and doesn't even own a car or have life or even girlfriend.
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  • To that he responded by being r de to me in my own house, telling me what to do, because he's older, and my wife telling me, made me see why he was acting like a child.
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  • I told him to get out of my house, we ended up fighting, swearing, and screaming for about 10 minutes, when my wife called my parents, who came and picked him up.
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  • My wife was crying, while my parents shouted at both of us, and shouted at me, for what I really don't know, he started the shouting not me.
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  • After they left I was just so angry and cried to my wife, and we both cried for a good 10 or 15 minutes.
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  • And watched a movie afterwards, I chose "the perfect date" yeah I'm corny, say what you want.
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  • My brother is back with our parents who are now ped at me. I don't feel like the AH but at the same time I kinda do.
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  • Thank you for reading, I look forward to seeing your opinions.
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  • Cool__Meiggi Not the AH. Your brother is a loser.
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  • Suspicious_Radio6166 Original Poster's Reply I never took him for the kind of person to do that, he's the slowest guy I know when it comes to woman
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  • Primary-Delivery737 And his parents enable this behaviour.
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  • Suspicious_Radio6166 Original Poster's Reply That's the part that me off
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  • Pomni_Simp2000 NTA but your parents sure are as well! The way your brother behaved it's no wonder where his immaturity came from since they enabled it! You gave him a chance and he blew it! The way he said he was gonna give your wife a better life was very corny! Like, what has he done to make his own life better in terms of financial stability?! I would suggest that unless your parents and brother apologize to you and your wife go LC with them.
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  • Suspicious_Radio6166 Original Poster's Reply I really don't know where he gets all this movie lines from honestly. My parents aren't talking to me, as the other commenter pointed out my parents enable him
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  • rocketmn69_ Tell your wife that you're sorry for bringing that a h le into your house
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  • Suspicious_Radio6166 Original Poster's Reply Yeah, I have she said its wasn't my fault, but I feel some responsibility for it.
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  • wheelzcarbyde NTA, your marriage should come before anything else. He bit the hand that was feeding him. I have a brother i havent spoken to in over 34 years, and it hasnt been long enough.
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  • Suspicious_Radio6166 Original Poster's Reply Imagine going into your little brother's house,try to f his wife, and fail the promise her a better life, while having nothing, then getting angry about it, when she says no, all while being 10 years older Than your brother. That's just embarrassing when I actually think of it.
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  • mmmmm_pi NTA. Defend your wife, defend your home. Your brother is a professional loser and your parents have coddled and enabled him for years. In a perfect world, you never would have taken him in. But at least now you can go to your parents, relatives, friends, etc and tell them that you tried to help him, but he disrespected your wife, your home, your marriage and so you threw him out.
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  • RJack151 NTA. Time to block your parents and brother so you don't have to listen to their drama. And bro deserved to be kicked out.
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  • Leather_Addition2605 That's not flirting, that's propositioning, and would lead to way more than a shouting match among any of the dudes I know. NTA.
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  • Senator_Bink >My brother is back with our parents who are now p ed at me. Well yeah, they thought they were rid of him. But you're not the one who raised him to be useless so NTA.
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