35-year-old uncle skips 1-year-old nephew's birthday party to go to a music festival: 'He's a miracle baby.'

The baby won't even remember if his uncle was at his first birthday!

Parents do a lot of things for their kids that are really for themselves. If a woman got made fun of for having bushy eyebrows when she was a little girl, she might start waxing her daughter's eyebrows before she reaches kindergarten. Her daughter did not come up with the idea of getting her eyebrows waxed. It wasn't even an insecurity for her! But because her mom was insecure about it, she projected that need for grooming onto her daughter to make herself feel more secure about her emotional well-being. It's not right, but it happens all the time!

Celebrations in the first year of a baby's life are obviously for the parents and not the baby. A child's first Christmas or Birthday is incredibly special for parents, especially with their first kid. A baby obviously does not know Christmas from March 24th, but there's no harm in celebrating a baby's first Christmas as if it were the most important day of their short life. Parents are a part of a family too, and they deserve the fun and festivities that come with having a young family.

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The uncle in this story knows that his baby nephew will not remember that he didn't attend his 1st birthday party because he went to a music festival. However, his brother and sister-in-law are not going to let him live it down, even though he plans to visit them on his nephew's actual birthday, the Monday after the party.
Am I the bad guy for skipping my nephew’s first birthday to go to a 4-day festival?

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$From my perspective: I made plans that are important to me \- This is a new experience I've been really looking forward to \- I'm still making an effort to celebrate his actual birthday \- I do understand why this milestone matters so much to them \- But I also feel like my life and priorities are just different, and I don't think that automatically makes me a bad uncle.$

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$grangaaa Am I reading this correctly, that they are having a party BEFORE his actual bday? Nah, not the ah le. They can just do the party the weekend after... (and even if it wasn't, you are there at his ACTUAL bday. And as you said, the kid won't remember nor care. My nephew couldnt give a sh\*t about birthday photos, all he cares about is that you spend time and make memories together.)$

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