30-year-old quits her job of 6 years after new coworker, Ben, keeps stealing her work and credit, and faces zero consequences despite multiple complaints: ‘I addressed it with my manager, director, and HR. After a year I simply couldn’t take it anymore’

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• AIO for quitting my job because of an insufferable coworker

  
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• What makes this particular situation worth paying attention to is the six-year part. This was not someone new to the company trying to find their footing. This was someone who had already proven herself, already had the relationships, already had the track record. None of that mattered once the pattern started. The managers who knew her well enough to promote her were somehow not well-positioned enough to recognize what was happening right in front of them, or were not motivated enough to do much about it once they did.

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• HR having a brief chat and calling it resolved is one of the more reliable features of this kind of situation. The brief chat exists to create documentation that something was addressed, not to actually fix anything. If it worked, these stories would not keep happening with such consistency.

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• The frustrating math of quitting over one coworker is that from the outside it looks like one person won. He did not get written up, he did not get removed, he did not face any real consequence. She left a job she was good at and had invested years into. That is the scoreboard if you are just counting who stayed and who went.

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• What that framing misses is that she was already gone. You cannot stay somewhere for long after they have shown you clearly that your time and work and discomfort are not worth a real response.

  Leaving was not the loss. Staying would have been.

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