Frugal 41-year-old woman refuses to let her manchild boyfriend move in with her just so he can pay off his $50k debt: He's always crying about debt and not having enough money.'

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    Angry couple dressed casually sitting down in a couch arguing.
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    I'll try to make it short. Been together for 4 years. and he's always financially struggling despite having $250k sitting in crypto
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    that he won't touch until the next "bull run". We have great chemistry but I have way more than him financially. He's always
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    crying about debt and not having enough money and wanting a change for his life but his only change that he has done is work extra hours at work while I'm doing multiple things to gain income not including my job.
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    When I met him he was $25k in debt and now he's $50k in debt and says he wants me to move in with him to help pay down his debt. He says he wants to
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    pay it all off in a year and when I ask him what's his game plan he says it's me moving in to save him. money and me renting out my 3 homes on Airbnb. He
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    Concerned man looking at his phone sitting in the floor.
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    has a son and most recently when I've gone. over to his house it's messy and cluttered and he says it's because he is so busy working and he has no help. I have a son
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    too but I have a feeling this is greatly going to benefit him as he'll have live in help to cook and clean while also paying his debt.
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    Frustrated man sitting on a grey couch looking at his phone while holding his head.
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    He makes $5k more than me yearly and says that when I move in we'll live off one income and I'm like
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    how when you're barely making yours on your own? I live very comfortable because I live below my means and
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    before he realized he was in so much debt there were Amazon packages and purchases made just because they were on sale or it was something he absolutely had to have.
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    Trash can full of amazon packages.
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    I'm 41F and he's 36M. I want to break up at this point because all I see for my future is helping him, struggle and no real benefit here for me in the long run. What do you guys think?
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    Top-Bit85 Oh come on. You know he wants you to move in and pay all the bills, do all the housework and probably care for his son. He thinks he hit the Lottery. Don't do it.
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    warmymallow This really sounds less like a partnership plan and more like you being asked to subsidize someone else's financial situation and lifestyle.
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    Outrageous_Rabbit842 Oh please break up with him. He's only going deeper into debt, and his solution is to make you support him and contribute to paying down a debt he will likely keep increasing!
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    Steups13 No. He can move in with his parents and save. Why should your bills increase to supplement his poor choices?
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    CaptainSnappertain He's lying about having a bunch of money in crypto (or anywhere else for that matter). Dump him.
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    Polka DotDancer Oh, h I no! He wants to use your assets to pay his debts. He wants you to be a free maid. Don't move in with this loser!
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    toxiclight NTJ. He wants you to support him, and you'll end up doing everything. You'd be further ahead breaking up. He's only sinking further into debt, and he's not even trying to get out. You're his backup plan (and I would bet donuts to dollars that he would leave his job if you move in together, leaving you responsible for everything.)
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    Moniiiiii2906 Yeah that's a hard pass for me ain't no way a man moving in with me so I can support him while he pays off debt he created by being bad at managing his own money when he makes more than you defo do NOT BE A DOOR MAT an help him clear his debt run for the hills you defo nta
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    Hungry-House-8860 crypto bro is the first and final red flag you should have needed. you wasted 4 years. cut your losses.
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    easier_than_google NTJ. Girl, RUN. NOW. You've seen how he lives. He wants a maid. You've seen he does nothing about his financial situation. He's gonna use you for your $$$. Get out now !!!

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