Mom demands 25-year-old daughter move out of her condo so that 18-year-old sister can move in instead, daughter refuses: ‘You're playing favorites’

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• "AITA for asking my oldest daughter to move out of the condo I own so her younger sister can live there during college?"

  "I (parent, 50s) bought a small studio-style condo a few years ago as an investment/extra space. At the time, my oldest daughter (mid-20s) needed somewhere to live, so I let her move in rent-free to help her get on her feet. The understanding (at least from my perspective) was that this was temporary.

  Fast forward a few years, and she’s still living there and hasn’t been paying rent. She’s working, but hasn’t made any moves toward finding her own place. I didn’t push it too hard because I wanted to support her."

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• "At one point, she actually had plans to move out and live with her fiancé, so I assumed things were naturally progressing. But they ended up breaking up, and she stayed in the condo. I didn’t push the issue at the time because I knew she was going through a difficult situation.

  Now the situation has changed. My youngest daughter (18) is starting college nearby in August, and I’d like her to live in the condo to save on housing costs. Because of the timing, I do have a firm deadline for when the condo needs to be available.

  I told my oldest that I’d like her to start making plans to move out so her sister can move in. She got really upset and said I was “kicking her out” and playing favorites. She says she’s comfortable there and that it’s unfair to uproot her when she’s been living there for years. She also says rent is expensive right now and I’m putting her in a difficult position."

• It comes as no surprise to discover that the spoiled daughter refuses to help her mom put a stop to the spoiling. She has a nice place to live that she isn't paying a dime for; why would she ever want to give that up? She doesn't care about her younger sister, and in her eyes, asking her to move is the same as picking favorites, and she cannot allow that to happen. (mostly because it seems like she can't afford to…)

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• "To try to make things easier, I offered her a room in my house rent-free so she wouldn’t have to worry about paying rent while figuring out her next steps. She doesn’t want to do that and says it’s not the same as having her own place.

  I get that it’s not easy to suddenly move, and I do feel bad, but at the same time, I’ve been letting her live there rent-free for years, and I feel like I’ve been more than generous. I also don’t think it’s unreasonable to want to use a property I own to help my younger daughter through school.

  Now there’s tension in the family, and I’m being made to feel like the bad guy.

  AITA for asking my oldest to move out so her sister can live there?"

  - Complex_Decision3532

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• The real question is, who is to blame for this situation? Is it the 25-year-old daughter who can't see past her entitlement to realize she's being selfish, or is it the Mom's fault for spoiling her daughter so much that she can't see reason?

• NYCStoryteller:

  NTA. I would straight up tell her that you are offering her alternative housing, but if she wants to play hardball, you will evict her, and she can learn the hard way. I would also tell her that moving back in with you is a time-limited deal, and that she will have 6 months to get herself organized to get her own place.

  It's not playing favorites, it's giving her younger sibling the same advantages that SHE had. It's time for her to grow up.

  
  ThrowRAMomVsGF:

  NTA, if you don't let the younger one to also take advantage, then you'd be playing favourites. She sounds very entitled.

   

  emlabkerba:

  Your daughter is acting entitled because you've entitled her to too much. It's your younger daughters turn to get the help. And geez oh petes, she's comfortable there?? Rent is too expensive but she won't take a free room in your house?? She needs to be uncomfortable and fund her own way.

  
  Both-Enthusiasm708:

  I am gonna go against that grain and say YTA. It sounds like you have never had a conversation with her that laid out your expectations. This whole post sounds like you only wanted her to stay for a couple of months, but then let things slide. The problem is that now she thinks of the apartment as her home, because you never gave her limits or guidelines.

  She see this as you taking away her home to give it to her sister. Is she acting a bit spoiled, yes, but that is an issue you created because apparently you never wanted to discuss the living arrangement with her.

  I would suggest discussing rules for living in the apartment with your youngest before she moves in.

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