Mom moves into sister's house with iPad kids, gets annoyed when she limits screentime and gives them routine: 'I send them to bed at 8 PM'

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  • A boy and a girl sit on cushions by a bed, playing on their phones
  • Am I wrong for giving her kids a routine? I’m not a parent…

    My sister and her kids recently moved in with me. Her kids are screen kids & her 12yr old had dark circles under her eyes. The others are extremely emotional/sluggish. They're on their devices the entire day and my sister sends them to bed at 11pm. I told her that she needs to give them a routine/hobbies and send them to bed earlier since school starts 7:30am.
  • She told me they're fine but clearly they're not. She's been going out more/working so I've been home with the kids. I limited their screen time, bought art supplies(little one loves them), sent the 12yr old on 10min walks around the building with music(
  • A preteen girl sits on a bed reading a book, with her brother sitting on an office chair beside her
  • she's been walking 20+min by choice now) and I don't feed them that processed trash my sis buys. I send them to bed at 8, 12yr old @9/9:30.
  • My sis witnessed this last night and told me that her kids will go to bed at 11pm bc 8pm doesn't work for them. Sorry but it has been working for over a week now & I told her that. She's upset and told the family. They want
  • me to apologize for overstepping a boundary and not understanding "parenting." I don't think I attacked her parenting. I felt like I was coming from a good place...AITA for going over her head?
  • A girl lies on a small skateboard and a boy lies with his arms outstretched on top of a rug
  • thechaoticstorm You are "overstepping" but this is a situation where overstepping is sorely needed.
  • If this has been going on for a week and she just now noticed, she is not a very attentive parent. Also, it is your house, and routines are important for shared spaces. You sound like an incredible loving aunt. Your sister should be embarrassed. NTA
  • GloomChampion NTA. Yes, you're overstepping. Yes, you're parenting. But you're also doing what those kids need. Your sister is a lackluster parent who can't take care of her own children. She should be thanking you for doing for her kids what she can't.
  • Bri64anBikeman Your house...your rules. Tell your sister she can raise walking screen zombies AFTER she moves out. And tell the rest of your family the same thing.
  • Nightlilly2021 It sounds like you're the one babysitting the kids while she's gone or she would know these things. Why is she complaining about receiving free childcare?
  • buckylug Being a parent and parenting are two very different things. You can't undermine her "parenting" when she isn't doing any.
  • Glum-Mulberry-9430 One of the times I'll agree w "my house my rules". It doesn't seem like she understands what parenting is and should be grateful you're showing her what it means. NTA
  • ironchef8000 Overstepping a boundary? What is your family on about?! You're doing far more for these kids than their actual parent that wildly neglects them. NTA
  • bullgod 1964 NTA. Your house, your rules. If the family is miffed then let them take her and her kids in.
  • glurgyy NTA. Tell your sister to get her sh together
  • queenofthequeens Nta your sister is a bad parent.
  • MercuryJellyfish NTA. Also, hit your parents with the old "When they're living under my roof..." line, that's always fun.

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