Co-homeowner moves into the family home they inherited, then their estranged father splits hairs over 50% ownership: 'I own it, I could've called a locksmith at any time'

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  • AITA for moving back into my family home without informing my dad?

    So when I was fresh out of highschool, my grandparents transferred their ownership of my family home to me, and I've had 50/50 ownership with my dad ever since. I
  • moved out not long after because of friction between me and my dad's new family.
  • A few years ago, my dad moved out of state with his new family, and since then the house has largely been unoccupied, sans occasional trips they make back to my home state. Since they've
  • left, I've asked twice if I could move back into it. The first time was because my home had a pipe burst and my partner and I needed a place to stay while repairs were ongoing.
  • The second time was this year, as I wanted to start saving money to invest into my own business.
  • Both times I was stonewalled, with him citing things like how he and his new family "put a lot of money into the house" and "wanted to make sure it wasn't taken for granted". That second
  • remark frankly annoyed the h I out of me, and it's something that's been a sore sticking point for me for months. My annoyance with that point got even stronger when I
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  • found out that HE ALMOST LET THE HOUSE GO INTO FORECLOSURE LAST YEAR WITHOUT TELLING ME. He'd taken a loan out on the house some time ago, and
  • apparently he'd defaulted and the house was almost foreclosed before a last minute payment could be made. It took me pulling the property
  • records for me to learn about that. In the year since the default happened, he never brought it up, never reached out to me to discuss it, nothing.
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  • So here's where I may be the a hole: I'm in the process of moving into a new home with my partner, but there's a 3 week gap between her lease ending and our new lease starting. My lease is
  • still ongoing until July, but my family home is closer to both of our workplaces than my current townhouse. So after explaining everything to my partner,
  • we decided to stay in my family home for these 3 weeks regardless of what my dad said.
  • Legally speaking, I know I'm in the clear. I consulted an attorney that specializes in property disputes, and she told me that since I own it, I could've called a locksmith and moved
  • back in at any time, and I've got her on retainer in case my dad or his family do anything. Morally speaking I'm still unsure. I'm honestly just frustrated that my dad's gate kept me from using
  • the family home and completely withheld the fact that the house was at risk of foreclosure because he was missing payments on a loan he took out, but I'm also
  • aware I may be behaving irrationally. My partner thinks he's the ah le and I should've done this years ago, but I'm still unsure.
  • ayesh00. Time to force a partition sale. Then buy your own place where dad has no say.
  • ThirdW_83. Nta, it's your house too. I'm also surprised he was able to get a loan on the house without your signature. I'd look into that
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