AITAH for getting upset that my dad’s “congratulations” message was AI?
I (31M) have been in a relationship with my (31F) girlfriend for over two years now. We’ve finally reached a point in our relationship where we’re both finally ready to move in together and start finding a home to live in. After about 4-5 months of finding (and failing) to search for a home, we looked at a flat last Friday, and we both love it. It has a spacious living room, affordable and it resides near my old childhood home, so I know the location very well. We paid for the holding deposit and metaphorically prayed we would get the place. Today, we just received news that the application was accepted and we can move in on August. I tell my family the fantastic news, my mum is super happy for me, but when I told my dad, he responded a little different.
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It's understandable to be upset about this. Buying a home is a huge accomplishment, and it deserves being celebrated. Especially in this day and age, where this is not an easy thing to scrape up enough money to do. So if you make it happen for yourself, then that's something you should definitely take some time to celebrate. And if you're lucky enough to have people around who want to celebrate you, then that's amazing. But what if that celebration came at a cost? What if it wasn't meaningful at all?
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Backstory about my dad: he’s not exactly the most committed person you’ll meet, only having temporary interests. He’ll believe in one thing, then immediately be opposed to it the next day. He would also be non-committed to expensive purchases, like motorbikes which he would sell the next week, or buying a canal boat so he could rent it out for money in the side, which he would then sell the next month. Whether it was ideals, purchases, or even his marriage with my mum, he would only be temporarily interested.
His most recent “interest” is AI, particularly ChatGPT. Almost every time we strike up a conversation or I ask him a question, he’ll just bring up ChatGPT, about how it’s the best thing ever invented. Whether or not you have opinions of AI is not the point I’m trying to make here.
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Has this happened to you? Maybe you have somebody in your life who is really gung-ho about new technology, and it takes over their life. But they don't stop and think about if this is a good thing to do. They don't look around and wonder if they're burning any bridges in their life by choosing AI over their family. That's what was happening here, and the son wanted nothing to do with it. But he wasn't sure if he was in the wrong or not by choosing this path. Keep reading to see what happened.
When I told him the news today about how I’ve finally gotten a home and will be moving in with my partner, he responded back a few hours later, saying things like “this is a new chapter of your life” and “wishing you both every happiness”. This is not how he normally types. After a few AI detection scans, they all come up as “most-likely AI generated”. This really upset me because he couldn’t even give a genuine congratulations without making it feel artificial and fabricated. I asked him if he seriously used AI to conjure up a congratulation message, to which he said yes, that it wasn’t a big deal, that what ChatGPT said was how he really felt.
I just started to not reply to him for the day but he keeps saying how it’s not a big deal and he means what he said. Except he didn’t “say” anything. He told something else to do it for him. I don’t know if I’m the ***** for not just taking their congratulatory message and not accepting that even though his message was fabricated, the meaning was genuine. But I gotta know, AITAH?
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