Sometimes our own families are the ones who think that boundaries don't apply to them. They love us, and we love them, but love doesn't mean indefinite access to our house, our belongings, or permission to stomp emotionally over us. Oftentimes we let them say and do whatever they want to avoid conflict with them and other family members. But they can go overboard pretty easily and hurt us while we try to protect them.
At some point, we have to choose our own peace of mind and let them handle themselves however they can, especially if they are our older relatives. Parents, aunts, and uncles had already lived their lives by the time the younger generation of sons, daughters, nieces, and nephews was born. Is not their responsibility to take charge or fix the elder's lives or mistakes.
In no way does this imply that all family should be cut off or ignored. After all, family is our first safety net. It means that we have to take care of our mental and emotional health before complying with everybody else's demands.
A mother happened to get offended over a daughter setting a clear boundary that she didn't like. The daughter shared on Reddit that she's the first one of her siblings to be able to buy a house. Her older brothers rent, and her sister lives with her mother. The mother, however, seems to have had enough of the sister, the family, and the house, so she wants to sell and move away. So far, so good. Until she asked her daughter to move in with her. The daughter said no, since her mother already has a house and doesn't really want to be around the rest of her family. The mother got really upset, called her daughter ungrateful, and accused her of not loving her.
Her request seems a little ironic. After all, if she's tired of living with one daughter, why would she want to live with the other one? And accusing her of not loving her is quite the manipulative move. She doesn't sound like an easy person to be around, and maybe the rest of her children had their reasons to move away.
Mother and her young adult daughter.
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A woman getting the keys to her new house.
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Family house the mother wants to sell.
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