Sister wants to kick out her 26-year-old roommate-sister after she has been living with her for free for over 5 years and refuses to contribute to the bills: 'She refused to do a single chore except wash her own clothes and fix her bed.'

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María Cetra • Writer
Aug 7, 2026 10:30 AM EDT

Give them an inch, and they take a mile. Or that is just the saying, at least.

A family member realizes that you need some help, so they offer for you to stay with them for free till you get back on your feet. You don't have to contribute to anything. No food, no services, no bills. It goes so far that you don't even have to do house chores such as washing dishes or cleaning, because they know you are going through a lot and they prefer you to concentrate on school. Time goes on, and 6 years go by. You finish school and have a job, but you continue to live with the family because supposedly, you still have some debts with school and car loans. They don't expect anything from you, except that you help out a little by doing more chores than just washing your clothes and making your bed. Let's remember, you don't even buy food for the house. You are living 100% for free. You say that you cannot be expected to do more as you already have too much to do.

This family member who was so nice letting you live with them for 6 years and never expected anything in return gets annoyed. You could be more helpful at home. They start talking to your parents, saying how annoyed they are that you can't even do chores, as they are not expecting anything else because they know the financial burden you currently have. All that only to discover that your parents are the ones paying for your loans, and you just spend your money buying things you like and eating out with your boyfriend, who, by the way, is also telling you that you need to cut back on spending.

Now you put the whole family in a weird place where they will need to kick you out, all because you weren't kind enough to appreciate the effort everyone was doing for you and show some gratitude by simply doing chores or paying the wifi. Maybe we get some different options on this story below, but it seems really clear to me. What would you do in this situation? Do you know some entitled people that would take advantage of someone's kindness like this? Would you ever act like this? 
 

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  • Some background, 6 years ago my sister (21F) asked if she could live with me (26F) because I was close to the college she studied at and I had a spare bedroom in a 3 bedroom home. She mentioned at the time she wouldn't be able help with the bills. She worked part time min wage and all her money goes towards her car note. At the time I didn't mind and wanted to help so I welcomed her with open arms. Fast forward 5 years later, she's
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  • Two girls sharing a bedroom as roommates. Representation.
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    Two girls sharing a bedroom as roommates. 

    Representation.

  • now 26, out of college, been working as a nurse for over a year, but still lives with me. Asked her about her future plans and she tells me she needs a bit more time to get back on her feet as she's apparently "struggling" due to her student and auto loan. I thought that was strange because she eats out almost everyday, buys crop from amazon all the time, buys coubtless kpop albums and goes to concerts. But you know what, fine. I'll give her benefit of the doubt. She has a bf
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  • (35M) that maybe helps pay for it all. I suggested she at least help with some bills if she's staying. Maybe pay for the internet as she's always on her computer playing her mmos or watching kdramas when she's home. I'm not asking for much. I do well on my own. But now that she has a job as a nurse, I want her to at least start pulling her weight in some shape or form. She can't do that, because again, she can barely
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  • afford her student and car loan. What really started to set things off was an old cast iron skillet she ruined after she put it in the dishwasher. I was mad and demanded she fix or replace it. She refused and says I'm overreacting over an honest mistake. It's just a pan. It was little stuff like it that kept piling on. Her leaving the bathrooms a mess. Leaving the kitchen a mess. She refused to do a single chore except wash her own clothes and
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  • fix her bed. Her excuse, she's too tired after working the graveyard shift. Ok. Fine. I let it go each time because the attitude she gives me is not worth the headache. Then one day, frustrated after my sister messed up my washing machine (she decided to wash a bunch of her shoes and boots and claims it was already broken ). I went to my dad to vent and ask for advice on how to navigate the situation. I bring up that my sister's car and student loans
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  • during the conversation and my dad gave me a confused look. Then he tells me that he and my mom have been paying for those the entire time????? Not only that, I find out from my sister's bf that he doesn't really pay for her lifestyle either. In fact they take turns footing the bill whenever they go out and that he's been trying to get her to cut back on her spending on Genshin Impact and kpop. I was infuriated. I confronted my
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  • sister about all of it but then she just gives me the same attitude like always and tells me to relax. That I'm blowing it all out of proportion. I tell her either go live with your bf or start paying me rent if you want to keep living with me. She goes "why do I need to pay you rent when all I do is stay in my room and sleep. You make a lot of money. It shouldn't be a problem" I was seeing red at that point and yelled at her to get out of my
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  • house and gave her 2 weeks to clean out her bedroom or I'm throwing all her stuff out. My mom and dad heard about it now they are ped at me saying. I went overboard. That I should be nicer and let her stay because she's my little sister. My relatives also found out and I've been painted as the villain. Now here I am unable to sleep because of it.
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  • A bedroom with two single beds.
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    A bedroom with two single beds. 

  • rheannahh Girl why are you even posting this? Obviously NTA.
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  • TBvunza98 NTA. Your parents are pred because they're the next caretakers for her. She's beenn taking advantage of you for years. Honestly, YTA for letting it go this long. She should've been out years ago.
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  • eldarwen9999 NTA and it's so kind and refreshing of your family to open their home to her. Tell them you'll pass on their names to little sister to move in with
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  • Sea_Veterinarian6539 My brother (my only sibling) is de d and I'd give almost anything to have him here just one more day. But this? Nah. NTA, your sister has never learnt responsibility, she's been lying to you for 6 years and living her best life. Ofc she has to pay rent, no landlord isn't not going to charge rent because all you do is sleep in a room. You did the right thing, if your parents think you went overboard they can pay for her rent and for a cleaner to clean up after her.
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  • Suitable-Lawyer-9397 She's a spoiled brat ~ tell your family members this is their opportunity to house her and be blessed with her presence! You could also add you need a roommate to help with your bills due to replacing your washer, etc. You can no longer afford to be so generous.
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  • Psychological Nose 197 Technically you need to give her written notice and do a formal eviction if she doesn't leave. Can't just throw her stuff out the door. Just to protect yourself legally. Unfortunately it's come to this, don't let family pressure you to maintain a lazy and entitled grown up.
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  • Routine-Horse-1419 It's YOUR house. Period. She's an adult and needs to learn that paying bills is a part of being an adult. She's taken advantage of you long enough. Don't back down and don't let your parents sway you. NTA OP.
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