Neighbor hires a contractor to enter a woman's yard without permission for hedge trimming, but the homeowner refuses and insists that all work on her property be scheduled with her first

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Aug 31, 2026 9:45 AM EDT

A shared hedge has somehow become the neighbor's personal scheduling department, which is a remarkable promotion considering nobody appointed her to manage another adult's yard, calendar, privacy, or contractor access

Splitting the trimming bill is one thing, deciding when a stranger enters someone else's property is something else entirely, and paying for it does not magically convert an unauthorized plan into a favor.

This arrangement had already been shaky from the get-go. For years, the neighbor scheduled the hedge trimmer without checking first, leaving the homeowner to ask him to finish the work on her side later when the timing did not suit. Now she provided roughly twenty minutes of notice, was told that the homeowner would contact the contractor separately, and then responded by booking him to work inside(!) that homeowner's yard the following day anyway. Looks like "I will schedule separately" now translates to "please feel free to schedule my contractors for me."

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  • My neighbor decided to schedule contractors to work on my property

    Woman in a gray top standing against a dense green hedge
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    Homeowner standing against a dense hedge

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  • I do not have much contact with my neighbors, but we're on nodding terms. Not unfriendly, but reserved, which is fine with me.
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  • There's a tall (20') hedge on the border of our properties, and it's been traditional to split the cost of trimming
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  • it. My neighbor has worked with a trimmer for years and schedules the appointments, but she never consults
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  • me before deciding when he's going to come over. So sometimes, I've had to ask him to finish the job on my side at a later time.
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  • Woman stands beneath a tall, dense green hedge outdoors, looking calmly toward the camera.
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    Homeowner standing beneath tall hedge

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  • This year, she gave me about 20 minutes' notice that he was going to come over, so I pushed back and said I'd schedule with him separately, as
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  • I've done before. Then, she texts me to tell me that she's scheduled him to come into my yard and start work the next day. Originally, she'd expected me
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  • to split the cost, but now she says that she'll cover the cost since she's asking him to come into my yard.
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  • On the one hand, it's a generous offer (the cost is hundreds of dollars) but on the other hand I am really not comfortable with someone treating my
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  • property as if it is her own and my privacy as if it's of no consequence. I let my other neighbor's contractor come onto my property to trim
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  • branches on her side of the tree, and he cut down every single branch on the tree on /my/ side as well, contrary to what he'd told me he'd do. So I
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  • want to be around if someone is trimming anything in my yard, and I think it's not unreasonable to expect to be included in the discussion of who comes onto my property and when.
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  • Offering to cover a few hundred dollars is generous only if the recipient gets to decide whether they want the service. Otherwise, it’s simply an expensive way to ignore a boundary. A person may be perfectly willing to share maintenance costs for a hedge that sits on a property line while still wanting to know when somebody will be walking through their yard with trimming equipment. Those two positions don’t conflict, no matter how badly convenience wants them to.

  • Would you be upset? Am I overreacting?
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  • There is also a good reason this homeowner doesn’t want to hand over that control. A previous contractor was allowed onto the property to trim branches on the neighbor’s side of a tree and then cut every branch on the homeowner’s side as well, despite promising not to, which is just , by every standard, just great.

    So after watching somebody treat clear instructions as optional and leave a tree altered beyond repair, wanting to be present for future work is not fussiness. It is the bare minimum of common sense.

  • Alien-lifeform666 NOR. Don't set the precedent of her being able to grant access to your property. Plus you've already had the bad experience of a neighbour's contractor destroying your tree. It's not unreasonable to want to be there when this one turns up.
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  • Calgary_Calico I'd have a conversation with her and tell her you need to coordinate with her on dates and times
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  • Next-Drummer-9280 28 "Stop scheduling work on my side of the property line without consulting me. You DO NOT have permission to tell contractors that they can access my property. Call them and cancel the appointment. If they come anyway and do work without my express consent, we will have a problem. Am I clear?”
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  • tuna_tofu I always watched to make sure they did the correct work and did it correctly. Talk to the contractor your self and hear what they were hired to do so they don't overstep.
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  • If the neighbor could just chill for a second, they would see that everything is fine. The hedge can still be trimmed. The neighbor can still use the contractor she knows. The cost can still be divided if both people agree. None of that requires pretending that a property line disappears whenever a contractor you know has an opening. The appropriate response is simple, and as always, it’s a full, complete sentence: No.

  • Ell-O-Elling NOR It's common courtesy to ask first. I'd send a response to thank her for offering to pay but the problem is that she doesn't speak
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  • problem is that she doesn't speak with you first before scheduling when it concerns you. Explain you expect to be consulted in these decisions before appointments
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  • are set. Then tell her what days work for you and be very clear no work is to be done outside of those days. Be firm but not confrontational.
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  • No access without prior agreement, no matter who pays, because a neighbor’s convenience does not come with a key to somebody else’s yard.

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