Mom asks 15-year-old's fast food manager if she can clock out 20 minutes after her shift ends, teen gets massively upset: 'Your 15 year old should be clocking out on time'

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• AITA for walking into my fifteen year old daughters work and asking how much longer she will be?

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• 15 year old works a fast foot job. Family just finished getting groceries and a bag of ice then proceeded to wait for her to get off work. 6pm is when she gets off work. At 6:20 pm I decided to walk in and ask how much longer she thinks she would be. If it was ten or fifteen minutes we were going to go put up the groceries and then come back for her.

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• When you're a teenager and just starting to really assert your independence, you're not always going to do it the right way. This is why it's important to let them make mistakes. It's how we learn as people. If you never take risks, then you'll never learn by doing. There is only so much you can do in theory before you have to put it into practice. And it's on the part of the teens' parents to learn how to do that effectively. You have to let them go, no matter how hard it might be to do.

• When I walked in, found her and asked, the tall manager male starts flipping out and says something like "is it pass time?" Looks at her and says "you can clock out now" when he asked me the question I said "no no, just wanted to know how much longer, she doesn't have to clock out" unto deaf ears.

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• On the way back to the vehicle she was beside herself and almost crying. I couldn't get a word out of her as to what I did was wrong just that she was angry at me.

  Today I asked the 17 year old daughter what I did wrong and she said "that's the fifteen year old's job, and she would not go into your job and ask how much longer you were going to be working, and so you didn't respect that."

• So I just want to know if this was bad, or teenagers over reacting. I didn't go in there and talk to the manager or demand she get off work. If the manager guy didn't come up and say things and all I got out of here was "I don't know" I would have told her we will be back in 10-15 minutes then.

  So, am I the ******e?

• Working as a teenager is a delicate thing. It's nice to have a job and learn some responsibility, but you have to be careful not to let it get out of hand. Some workplaces are too eager to have employees who might not know how to stand up for themselves yet. It's easy to find yourself in a position where you're overworked and disrespected without you knowing. It's important for the adults in your life to be looking out for you in these moments. In this story, a lot of conflicting attitudes were at play. Keep reading to see what commenters had to say about this family conflict. 

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• ACTSATGuyonReddit

  They have their perspective, and you have yours. Tell your daughter that if she will be working after her scheduled time while you have to pick her up, she has to notify you some way. Let her know you aren't angry about it, but that you need to know.

• Beneficial-Guess2140

  NTA, but chances are her manager is upset because she went over her scheduled time without approval. She should have spoken up and told him she was only scheduled until 6. That’s more likely to get her into trouble than you coming in to check on her.

• TotientEC

  NTA. 15 year olds are hyper-sensitive because they are 15.

• Oatz3

  NAH

  She's 15 and dependent on family to drive. The manager should be aware of that.

  Your 15 year old should be clocking out on time.

• thesweeterpeter

  ESH

  It's her job, it's not like you're picking her up from a birthday party. You need to give her some autonomy and allow her to be independent

  But she needs to learn what it is to respect your time. If she knew you were picking her up, she needs to give you a heads up she's working late so you're not sitting out there wait. Part of being given some autonomy is learning how to use it

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