Parents expect their daughter to cover nearly all household expenses after she lands her first job, call her selfish when she wants to save for her future: ‘I have my own future to plan for’

Of course, this is causing the daughter to feel guilty. And I get it. She's 29; she's lived with her parents most of her life, and it's okay if they want some money in return. The problem is that if she starts paying for everything in the house now, including taxes, groceries, and daily necessities, she'll be left with nothing and stuck in a cycle where she can't become independent and move out. Parents should be more understanding of their kids' position, because even though she has the money to help, she needs to focus on her future and build a life on her own. By paying everything in the house now, the daughter won't be able to move out and will end up having their parents as her roommates.

What happens when she stands her ground and tells her parents she would like to save the money? They call her selfish and uncooperative, especially now that she has a job and can earn her own money. But she wants to help around the house; that's not the problem. She doesn't want to spend all the money.

Anyway, she needs to decide what she'll pay and what expenses her parents will cover. And with that, she might be able to start saving up to move out eventually. There comes a point in life when moving out of your parents' home is less a desire than a necessity, and feeling free in your own space is the best feeling. She's not selfish for wanting that money for herself and to think about the future… her parents should be much more understanding.