Prospective employee is rejected because they didn't agree to the job before seeing the final offer: 'The wanted me to give up on all negotiating'

JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor

Nov 2, 2026 6:45 PM EST

Negotiation is not always easy, and sometimes the deal rots in the process. But you're usually better off knowing this than not knowing it.

Negotiation is an underrated part of getting a job these days. I don't know about you, but nobody really ever taught me how to negotiate. It wasn't a unit in grade school or anything. So most of what you learn you absorb from other people, or from doing it yourself. There's an art to it, though, and you have to know your worth if you want to make it far in this world. When you're handling a job offer, you don't want to get ahead of yourself and just agree. It might be tempting to drop everything to be able to say yes to a job, but you have more leverage than you think. It's a two-way street. You might want them, but they also want you. You have the ability to tell them what you're looking for, and they have to entertain that. This is what we come to the negotiation table with. You have your skills and your desires, and they have their needs and their resources. If you can't find a happy medium between those things, then it might not be a correct fit. The person in this story was in the frustrating middle of that kind of negotiation.

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*A woman shakes the hand of a job recruiter at a desk*

Rejected because I wouldn't say yes before I saw the offer.

I was interviewed for a company. Several rounds of interviews and plant visits. Salary range was $130k to $155k when I applied. I was told I was the top candidate, more experience than they expected, more qualifications etc.

The recruiter then wanted me to say I'd take $130k. I said I would consider it but I may want to negotiate on some other aspects of that was the case. How could I be the top candidate, exceed all the requirements but still only be offered the bottom of the range.

The wanted me to give up on all negotiating. I said I would consider anything they put in front of me but I wanted to see the entire offer. So they convinced the client I was over qualified and would leave too quickly and pulled the soon to be offer. Even though I had stayed with my last employer for two decades. Clearly a job

My sweet revenge is I got another job in a couple weeks with better benefits but similiar pay. It's been four months and I see they just reposted the same role again.

AllOrNothing4me You were the top candidate because they thought they could get you for 130k.

Commenters gave their ideas on how to handle this.

jeffhasabadusername I wonder if there is an incentive to the recruiter to bring someone in at the lower end of the range. And I bet they expected you to be a pushover and agree. Congratulations on finding a better spot and staying away from what is, most likely, a horrible employer.

Butch_F Now send a letter directly to the company saying the recruiter wasn't honest, and that you'd have listened to any offer you'd have seen and negotiated fairly. State you are no longer searching for a position since the offer never came and you've since taken another.

Philosemen69 This part right here holds your answer, "So they convinced the client I was over qualified...". The client likely had no knowledge of you. You were interviewed by an agency or a headhunter who was hired by the company with a vacancy to fill it for them.

The pay range was likely inflated above what the company was willing to pay. in order to entice better qualified applicants and more of them. If the recruiter told the client anything about you, it was probably as explanation of their need for an extension on their first contract to fill the position.

When you're in talks with a recruiter, a lot can go wrong. Recruiters can be very frustrating to deal with, no matter who you are and no matter what job you're looking for. It's always better to deal with the hiring company if you can; that way you have the clearest picture of what's in store for you. But that doesn't always happen, and sometimes you have to deal with the middleman. The person in this story was trying to do that, but ended up caught in the middle of a vague negotiation that everyone had lost the plot on. It's a difficult thing when you know your worth, but you're dealing with people who want to undervalue you. You're allowed to ask for what you want, but sometimes that sends a red flag up for future employers, even when you don't want them to. Asking for what you deserve should be a positive thing and show your employer that you're willing to meet them in the middle. The right hiring manager will see that and offer what they can in return. Hopefully they don't just turn it around in your face when things get difficult. That's what was starting to happen here, though, when this employee was working with a recruiter for a new job. They weren't going to settle for less than what they deserved, and they eventually lost the job in the process. Keep reading to see what exactly happened here.

dragon34 Realtors are pressuring people to skip the inspection clause on the sale and recruiters are pressuring people to accept a job without seeing a contract. Maybe capitalism was a mistake

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*A sign on a door that reads "We Are Hiring"*

Melodic_Turnover_877 $130k was all they had to offer. They lied about the range.

ddog6900 Top candidate usually equals cheapest candidate. Likely other candidates were asking for more money. You knew your worth, stood your ground and found a better opportunity. Not much else you could have done, you likely would have been miserable.

mcflame13 Most companies that have multiple locations are ran by greedy idiots that only care about money. And it is even worse if they are publicly traded. If they are publicly traded. They only focus on making the shareholders more money. That is an

incredibly stupid way to run a company. Why? Because of something happens. The company will fall apart. While if they focus on their employees and company stability. They will have employees that stay with the company, because they are paid better and get better benefits. And the company has the resources to survive with little to no changes if something happens.

Sugarman111 Reach out to the company and explain what the recruiter did

ZolotoGold You should get back in touch, saying you'll still do the job but for 120k. Lead them on then drop out at the last minute.

Zealousideal_You84 Just want to say "f recruiters". Had to deal with them a few times in IT jobs. They always try to lowball you. They want to pay you $40/hr while they're billing the company $120/hr

xubax I was shouted by a recruiter. The job would have cut an hour off of my commute, one way. But it would have been a cut in pay. 110k cap. I said I'd consider it, but I needed to tall to someone about the benefits, particularly health insurance.

Their health insurance, between increased cost and deductible would have cost me about another 7500. Plus a 15k cut in pay. I declined. Instead of accepting that, he asked what it would take for me to accept. I said 125k.

He got all huffy, "i told got it was capped at 110k!" I said, "you approached me. I told you I'd consider it, but I needed to consider the whole package, and their health insurance plus the cut in pay is too much to absorb. And, you asked me what it would take. That's what it would take. II

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Prospective employee is rejected because they didn't agree to the job before seeing the final offer: 'The wanted me to give up on all negotiating'

Rejected because I wouldn't say yes before I saw the offer.

Commenters gave their ideas on how to handle this.

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