In 2012, the invention of Tinder changed the landscape of love, dating, and relationships as we know it. Gone are the days where flirting required real-life, face-to-face interaction and welcome to the age of virtual romance, where your next hook up is only one swipe away. As a woman who uses dating apps, it's easy to feel like a small disposable fish in an endlessly big pond of younger, better looking, and more heavily photoshopped fish. I often wonder if courtship was really that much easier before online dating took over, or has the struggle to find good-quality men been one that women have faced since the dawn of time?
It seems so; a magazine article titled '129 Ways to Get a Husband' was discovered in a 1958 edition of American magazine McCall's. In what seems to be an attempt to help its readers find a husband, it lists 129 bizarre, sexist, and possibly politically incorrect tips to point them in the right direction. I've decided to look into each one to see if they would work today and whether or not things have really changed all that much over the past 62 years when it comes to dating. Welcome to your weekly tip on 'How To Find A Husband: 1950s Style'. Here's Tip #5.
The 1958 edition of American magazine McCall’s, featuring '129 Ways to Get a Husband'
That's a lot of ways! Arguably too many. But beggars can't be choosers, so let's take a look at Tip #5...
Tip #5 - Look in the census reports for places with the most single men
I'm not going to lie, I don't really understand this one. The tip goes on to add that "Nevada has 125 males for every 100 females"...
So, is it suggesting to just pick up and move to a state whose population has more men than women?
Because that seems a little far-fetched. I mean, how would that even work...?
Let's say you invested the time into searching through the census report (like a lunatic) and found a town or state with a higher population of men than women... do you just move there?
OK, OK, let's get hypothetical. Say you did choose to uproot your life and move to said man-filled location... you've unpacked your belongings and settled in. Now what?
Do you just start prowling the streets for all the men? Where are they? The bars? The gyms? The parks? Street corners?
I mean, surely in a place with more men than women, it should be swarming with men. They should be everywhere!
Falling from the skies at your feet!
Or... welcome to reality, where that's not how life works!
Sure, it might be a numbers game, but love isn't really about numbers. It's about that click you have with that special someone who you meet randomly.
If you base your whole existence around trying to find a man, it's unlikely to attract the kind of man you want. You do you, live your best life...
And the one will come along when you least expect it. So, in conclusion, tip #5 gets a big fat no from me!