Nanny For 'High-Profile Family' Hacks Mom’s Instagram Account After NDA Violation

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Oct 4, 2021 2:30 PM EDT

A woman posted a question on the Reddit group, Am I The A-hole, asking if she's in the wrong for hacking into her mom's Instagram account after suspecting that her mom gossiped about the "high-profile family" her daughter nannies for, to her friend. The woman explains that this was a direct violation of the NDA that her family had to sign when she started the job, which was in place to protect the family she works for. All for the sake of bragging to her friend. Upon finding out that she hacked into the account, her mom lost it, telling her daughter that she invaded her privacy. The internet jumped to the nanny's defense, whose job, reputation, and livelihood were now at risk. They claimed that her mom was manipulating the situation and gaslighting her daughter when she held her accountable for her actions.

Read the story below and see if you agree with Redditors' comments, who sympathized with her. Then, check out the last comment, where the OP explains what she will do to rectify the situation.

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  • 01
    Text - Text - Posted by u/freetobex2 6 days ago 6. 2 3 5 A 7 VOTER 5 VOT 8 AITA for "hacking" my moms instagram to see if she violated NDA? Not the A-hole I'm a nanny for a high profile family. I signed a very extensive and strict NDA. Anyone directly involved in my life, mom, dad, sis, and husband, also signed an NDA. The nanny family recommended this, to talk about the job without getting into any legal trouble or putting them at risk.
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  • 02
    Text - Text - Recently ran into one of my parents' neighbors, Amber, at the park. Amber asked how the new job was going, then proceeded to ask specifics about how it must be working for a family where the parents are (insert their jobs here). A direct violation of the NDA and something I could be fired and sued for.
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  • 03
    Text - Text - My dad isn't the sharing type, like at all, so I figured it was probably my mom. I asked her about it in a casual "Hey how's Amber," way. I said I ran into Amber at the park and that it was odd because she knew details about my job without me telling her. My mom simply shrugged and said, "That's funny. Maybe she googled? Or saw something on social media?"
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  • 04
    Text - Text - My dad and sister absolutely hate Amber. They essentially said hell would have to freeze over before they spoke to her willingly. My dad ended our convo where I asked him about it by saying, "The only thing I know about her is that her son just made partner at a law firm in New York and is making bank and that's only because mom saw it on instagram and told me about it."
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  • 05
    Text - Text - Right then, I knew my mom lied to me and it was her. She and Amber love to "one up" each other with their children's success, and I also just landed a great new job. I asked my mom about it AGAIN and she told me that I was being dramatic, making stuff up, and that she would never do that to me.
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  • 06
    Text - Text - My mom doesn't text people, only DM's on instagram. I know her password so logged in to check her messages. There was an extremely long DM to Amber where she shared their professions, children's names, ages, private school, general locations of their homes, how they pay "really well", etc. Everything that we are legally NOT allowed to say, she said.
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  • 07
    Text - Text - I called her immediately and said that I logged into her DM's and saw the message she sent Amber that was a violation. She started screaming at me about how she is supposed to be able to trust her daughter, she can't believe I hacked into her instagram, that mothers should be allowed to brag about their children, and then she hung up.
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  • 08
    Text - Text - It has been a week without contact between the two of us. We used to speak every single day. I am starting to believe that maybe I'm the asshole here for violating her trust like that. My husband says if anyone violated trust here it is her and that I gave her ample opportunity to tell the truth before I intervened and sought out the truth myself. He constantly reminds me that they could sue us into the ground, and fire me, for endangering my nanny family's well being. Because trut
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  • 09
    Text - downbythesea113 Partassipant [4] 29.6k points · 6 days ago VOTED 4 NTA, your mom crossed the line and could end up costing you your job. I would be livid.
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  • 10
    Text - Text - picklefluffer Partassipant [1] 563 points · 6 days ago Not only costing OP the job but by giving such intimate details about this family she put the children in danger. These kinds of rules exist because of people who will try to manipulate or stalk the children to get to the parents. This is all absolutely not okay and OP is right to take it seriously.
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  • 11
    Text - TennisGirl1 263 points · 6 days ago Not just "crossed the line" and "could cost you your job". Your mother repeatedly disrespected and belittled you by going against your explicit request to not discuss your job (leave the legalities aside) so she could "brag about her child". That is so incredibly selfish and narcissistic.
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  • 12
    Text - Text - renne94 106 points · 6 days ago Nta. Agreed. You mum crossed the line and could end up getting sued. Because as we all know, an NDA is a legally binding document. The fact that she doesn't take that seriously and is happy to let you lose your job because her horse is bigger than her mates horse is ridiculous. Also your reputation could be affected.
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  • 13
    Text - Text - Thriftyverse Partassipant [4] 5.4k points · 6 days ago Honestly, if I were OP, I'd consider telling them what happened and how you have handled it and also tell them to take her to court for breaking the NDA. Unless mom gets some consequences for what she did, she'll just keep doing it,
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  • 14
    Text - Text - Shadiekins 62 points · 6 days ago No matter what happens on Monday, I'd be telling mom that I lost the job because she broke the NDA. Even if you don't lose the job, telling her that you did, and that her breaking the NDA further could result in much worse consequences, might be the way to get her to wise up and keep her trap shut. She won't willingly want to let Amber know that your big new job is gone and she'll feel bad for costing you it... Hopefully. Can never tell with people
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  • 15
    Text - Text - oughtnotoctonaut 119 points · 6 days ago She willingly risked those kids safety for her ego. My mom was trying to get my child involved in youtube fame which I felt was unsafe. When she persisted after I voiced my concerns my authority voice naturally kicked in and she responded like a scolded child, such a weird role reversal but in nature its protect the young. Sorry grandma.
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  • 16
    Text - VicariousPanda 55 points · 6 days ago Not only is OPs mom clearly in the wrong here, but she lied to her and broke her, gas lit her, then has the audacity to say that OP is the one who broke the trust? Sorry to say OP but I would personally tell the family and recommend they sue. Either that or outright tell your mother that you are considering this, since her continuing to tell anyone that information could literally ruin your life. She needs to get a clue. Fast.
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  • 17

    The OP ends by explaining the actions she's taken to rectify the situation to protect herself and the family she nannies for.

    Text - Text - freetobex2 3.3k points · 6 days ago I work a 2 week on/2 week off schedule, so I haven't seen them in person since this all went down. I sent them a message letting them know that there is an NDA issue and we are discussing it on Mon morning! I've been doing this a long time and keeping things like this from your employers is the worst thing you can do. Could I get fired? Yes. I love the family though and want to keep them safe. To do that, they need all the information about the s
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