Mom Makes Husband Take Over 'Household Duties' For a Day, Plays Video Games

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Feb 1, 2022 11:00 AM EST

The division of labor at home is an essential discussion that couples need to have before moving in together or getting married. The boundaries of traditional gender roles are becoming more and more blurred, as two incomes become necessary for many families to survive. But, if you're a woman and you're in the position to be a stay-at-home mom, then that's not to say you've got the easy way out at all. Stay-at-home moms have it tough, and being able to count on your husband or partner for support when they get home from work is a crucial part of the role. One stay-at-home mom of four was so sick of her husband's lack of contribution to the housework or child-raising that she decided to boycott her 'duties' one weekend, spending the whole Saturday locked in a room, playing video games. Her husband was furious and even called his mom to complain, who then had a go at her DIL (hi, manchild!) The woman posted on Reddit's Am I The A-Hole, to get an outside perspective as to whether she was overacting or whether marriage counseling was the only thing that would save the marriage. Read through the comments, which are all pro-her. Her husband sounds unbearable and like he lives in the '50s.




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  • 01
    Text - Posted by u/ClassroomLonely 6 days ago 25 17 321 12 26 AITA for making my husband take over for a day so I can play video games? Not the A-hole I am a mom of 4. I know, that's alot of kids, but I wouldn't change it. The kids are 10m, 9f, 6m, and 2m. I am a stay at home mom while my husband works m-f 9-5. His saturdays are pretty relaxed, he hangs out with the kids, then goes out with the boys that night.
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    Text - Hello reddit! Long time lurker, but I felt like you might be able to tell me if I was in the wrong here. I am a mom of 4. I know, that's alot of kids, but I wouldn't change it. The kids are 10m, 9f, 6m, and 2m. I am a stay at home mom while my husband works m-f 9-5. His saturdays are pretty relaxed, he hangs out with the kids, then goes out with the boys that night. Sunday is church and a family dinner. My weeks are the complete opposite. I dont relax. I'm 100% overwhelmed and %150 stress
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  • 03
    Text - 5:30: wakeup, shower, coffee in silence 6:30: set out clothes, wake up house 7:30: cook/tend to 2 year old 8:00: eating, make husbands lunch. 8:30: get kids logged on and set up for school. 9-11: breakfast cleanup, help kids with school, entertain 2 year old, light cleaning, fix snacks 11-12:30: fix lunch, feed kids, take kids out to play while tending garden 1-3: deep cleaning 1 room, entertain kids 3-4: laundry 4- 5:30: dinner prep and cooking 5-6: feed everyone 6-7: run errands/after d
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  • 04
    Text - This finally came to a head this last friday when my husband got upset with me for complaining that I was tired. I asked him what he did every day that hes too tired to help out and maybe that's why I am exhausted, that I do everything. I havent had a break since my 2 year old was born. He told me I didnt need a break, that it's easy to do my job. I ended up screaming that the next day, he is tending to the house and kids and that I was locking myself in our room and playing video games a
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    Text - True to my word, I refused to unlock the door saturday or do anything. My MIL called me pissed that I could do that to my family and that I was the AH for ignoring my family to play games. I told her that maybe if she raised her son better, it wouldnt have came to this. My husband is angry, my mil is angry and I feel like the AH. ΑΙΤΑ
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    Text - Edit: My husband is a web developer. When he gets home, he sits down and relaxes for the rest of the evening. He doesnt entertain the kids, he doesnt help with the house, he relaxes because hes worked so hard and is exhausted.
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    Text - My kids do not get fed junk food, Kraft meals, or frozen meals. I make everything from scratch because its healthier. They get 30 minutes-1 hour of screen time a day. They do have small chores that help alittle but I do all of the big stuff I have tried to talk to him about this before and have laid out exactly what can be done to help me. I get ignored
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    Text - Deliquate Asshole Enthusiast [8] 28.0k points · 6 days ago NTA. That was a baller move and I salute you. If your husband can't acknowledge that being a stay at home mom during a pandemic is a tough job, then he can learn the hard way.
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    Text - justgetinthebin 148 points · 6 days ago OP's husband probably grew up with his mother doing all the housework and tending to the kids. it's normalized to them. MIL is probably perplexed at OP for not being a subservient housewife who just puts up with her husband's shit.
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    Text - BlackOliveClearWater Partassipant [1] 570 points · 6 days ago And she even MAKES HIS DAMN LUNCH. She is NTA and I'm shocked she hasn't served him a shit sandwich for tattling to his mommy. What a ginormous baby that large adult son is!
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    Text - WolfPetter42 216 points · 6 days ago NTA. Agreed, baller move right here, he wants to make it so you do everything 99% of the time, start making him do it 50%, share the load. He's lazy.
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    Text - F1LOY1 Asshole Aficionado [10] 5.0k points · 6 days ago NTA - why was your MIL involved? She's not an authority in your home or marriage? It sucks that it got to be a fight. Scheduling some proper time off for yourself needs to become a regular thing. You and your husband need to discuss this calmly, and he needs to be respectful.
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    Text - production_muppet 74 points · 5 days ago The husband should be well aware of how hard it is to run a household. He's spent years being wilfully blind (after all, presumably he's there watching his wife work all evenings and weekends) and has had years to go "wow, you work all evening and on the weekends, maybe I should pitch in". He's a grownup. She does not need to be his manager in the household. That's another full time job in itself.
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    Text - JohnChapter11Verse35 Partassipant [4] 679 points · 6 days ago NTA Why is your husbandbaby angry and complaining to mommy, he's the one who said your job was easy? MIL needs to mind her own business.
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    Text - sizzlingtofu Asshole Aficionado [19] 573 points · 6 days ago NTA! A job is 40 hours a week, if your husband expects you to raise the kids and tend to the house 100% of the time it's not your job, you are a slave! I would wager that's what his mom did and she just put up with it (and there was a lot less expectations put on stay at home moms of previous generations...) so he doesn't see anything wrong with that expectation. You need to sit down and explain that like his job, you are willin
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    Text - ihateusernamecreates 429 points · 6 days ago NTA he should never involved his mother or devalued your contribution. But you can't keep locking yourself away, you need to go to couples counselling. You need to be heard by your partner in life, hopefully therapy can facilitate that. Curious to know how he handled a day of the kids and home making ? , Reply Give Award Share Report Save ClassroomLonely 905 points · 6 days ago He did about as well as I expected. My house was a mess, the kids w
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