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Husband Misses Birth Of Child, Blames Wife, Gets Roasted

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    Font - Posted by u/pookiennermal 1 day ago O 14 13 S 26 58 AITA for not trying harder to tell my husband I was in labour? Not the A-hole My husband who I do love and does love me. Is a distant and private person. To everyone. His mom was having health problems and I didn't know until weeks later when I spike to her. I asked him

    They argued that it was his responsibility to be available at all times in the weeks prior to his wife's due date, in case she went into labor at any time. Yeah, duh! The fact that he made himself so unavailable was a huge red flag and an act of utter selfishness. Not only that but the way she describes how emotionally unavailable he is in general raises some pretty big alarm bells. 

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    Font - and I didn't know until weeks later when I spike to her. I asked him how she was doing later and he said he didn't know. That just how he deal with things. He doesn't want to get to personal with anyone. We share hobbies and can have good conversations as long as they are not to personal. It can be off putting but I do genuinely enjoy his company.

    As if she didn't have enough to worry about at that moment than to drive herself crazy tracking him down after he failed to provide alternative ways of getting in touch with him. He literally had one job, and that was to be available for his wife during labor. Imagine how ridiculous he'd have looked if she turned up at his office, begging someone to tell her where he was. HUGE a**hole alert! 

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    Font - Jump to this last week. I am pregnant and went into labor. It was only a few days before my due date so nothing concerning. I tried to call his work but his phone went right to voice mail because he was in a meeting. I text him. Still no answer. I waited a half hour the tried again and still couldn't get through. My labor was getting further along. So I called a friend to get a ride to the hospital.
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    Human body - By the time my husband checked his phone at the end of the work day, I had already given birth to our daughter. Everything was very straight forward no complications we were ready to leave by the next morning.
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    Font - My husband is upset with me though. Saying I should have come by his work to tell him it was time. But he has alway's been distant about work. I know what department he works in but not where his office is in the building. It would have been awkward.
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    Font - My husband has told me what I did was unforgivable. He hasn't called me an asshole but has said I am horrible person for denying him the joy of seeing our daughter born. AITA for not trying harder to contact him.
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    Font - Info because a lot are asking. I did text specifically that I was in labor. I left voice mail to the same. I panicked a bit and didn't call his office because he likes to keep work and home separate. Which means I don't know a lot about his work and I was worried I would over share to his coworkers by calling. And him not checking his phone. That is apart of his work home split to. He doesn't deal with anything work related at home but also just put his personal phone out of his mind at w
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    Font - DenniPenni Partassipant [2] 1 day ago 2 2 e 34 He expected you, a person in labor, to come to his work to find him, and he had his phone off (instead of silence or wtv) when he very much knew that you were days from your due date??? NTA, your husband is just clueless. He needs to have been better in general about paying attention.
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    Font - MusicwithRocks In Pooperintendant [60] 1 day ago 2 8 & 10 More When your wife is getting withing three fricken weeks of her due date - it is up to you to keep your phone on you at all times. THIS WASN'T A SURPRISE BABY - he knew it was coming - and once you are within a week of the due date it can really come at any time - the person carrying the baby already has enough to keep track of and do - the partner only really has to check their damn text messages. I can't imagine what his cowor
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    Font - KittyGrewAMoustache 1 day ago She was scared to call her husband's work to try to tell him she was in labor in case it made him mad about her mixing his work with home life. I can't imagine living like that, how stressful.
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    Rectangle - squirrelfoot 1 day ago I think the OP may be working around a lot of very serious issues with her husband judging from what she says about him being very distant, then him telling her that his not bothering to check his phone when his wife was 3 days away from labour is actually her doing something unforgivable.
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    Rectangle - iamcakebeth 1 day ago S My husband was in the navy on a submarine. If he had been underway (aka very unavailable) while I was pregnant it would have been easier for me to tell him I was in labor than it seems to have been for this woman. Totally NTA.
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    Font - LdyAce 1 day ago This. When I had my daughter, my husband wasn't allowed to have his phone at work except for the end of the day when they were just waiting for the word that everything was done and they could leave. I had his boss's phone number taped to the fridge and on a paper in my wallet to call if I went into labor while he was there. His boss was fully aware of it as well. As well as his work friend's number in case his phone died and his boss couldn't be reached, and also his bes
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    Font - Kebar8 Partassipant [3] 1 day ago The two weeks before my due date I had to start ever text with. I'm not in labour can you xyz... Lol NTA. I'm so sorry he's blaming this on you
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    Organism - lilsunsunsun 1 day ago OP also just sounds like she's always walking on eggshells around him, worrying about "invading his privacy", when in fact he's keeping her at arm's distance and withholding emotional intimacy. Sounds like OP's husband wants to use this incident to further blame everything on OP and manipulate her. My god please rethink your relationship.
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    Font - Rectangle - Posted by u/pookiennermal 1 day ago 2 14 e13 3 26 58 AITA for not trying harder to tell my husband I was in labour? Not the A-hole Jump to this last week. I am pregnant and went into labor. It was only a few days before my due date so nothing concerning. I tried to call his work but his phone went right to voice mail because he was in a meeting. I text him. Still no answer. I waited a half hour the tried again and still couldn't get through. My labor was getting further along.

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