Bridesmaid Wants To Bail On Wedding After Couple Breaks Up

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Mar 13, 2021 11:00 AM EST

Weddings have an uncanny knack for inspiring people near and far to act out the worst versions of themselves. It's probably attributable to the fact that you have various folks being brought together that never should've been in the same room to begin with. You've also got various people getting caught up in the hopeless chase of ensuring that everything is literally perfect. Such an unattainable goal will only result in a meltdown. This bridezilla sounds like she's been all kinds of toxic and unreasonable. Seems like the bridesmaid's decision to not attend the wedding is entirely understandable. 

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    Font - 3 1 3 1 AITA for wanting to cancel on a bachelorette trip bc the couple broke up? Not the A-hole A friend had to reschedule her 2020 wedding and bachelorette trip to 2021. We organized a local bach event at a restaurant before her small 2020 ceremony. She got legally married a month later, and now is getting divorced! (and is cancelling her 2021 big wedding).
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    Font - The trip was rescheduled to May 2021. I'm dreading it, it was expensive and she's been a bridezilla (see below). I don't want to upset her, but I need to figure out what to do soon before people start asking me what the plan is bc I booked everything. To get a refund we have to cancel everything in the next 3 weeks. Is it normal to expect your bridesmaids and friends to still organize (and pay for) a bachelorette trip for vou after your wedding is called off? Or am I the wanting to bail.
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    Font - She has been demanding and selfish even threatening to fire bridesmaids for not putting in enough effort into wedding planning. The trip was expensive when we booked it pre-pandemic ($1,000+ pp just for flights and lodging for a weekend!), and we all paid for her. The bride called girls who said the trip was pricy were "poor" and made fun of them... Now some girls have lost jobs, have new responsibilities or just don't want to go bc current events. We've all spent a ton of money to celebr
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    Font - fleurpixie · 22h NTA. Bail. Bail with unseemly haste. There are clearly many excellent reasons for all of you to get your money back. There are exactly zero reasons for you all to take her on a free vacation. Bail with impunity and sans guilt OP. edit: My bus hit a pothole and I posted early/and a redundant word. G Reply 1 1.7k 3 ...
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    Font - Crowley_cross_Jesus • 22h NTA. And frankly I don't understand why you want to even be friends with this person. She sounds like an absolutely toxic monster. G Reply 185 3 + ...
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    Smile - DarkRogus · 22h · Partassipant [3] NTA - So the ex-bride wants a bachelorette party even though she is no longer engaged.. G Reply 1 102 ...
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    Font - Wooden_Commercial123 · 22h • Partassipant [2] NTA. You are under no obligation to go on this trip, and to do so still would be unwise from a public health standpoint at present. Perhaps the bride and others who care to join her can go on their own and let everyone else cancel, if she still wishes to take the trip. G Reply 1 69 + ...
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    Font - McWonderWoman · 22h · Partassipant [3] Yeahhh NTA and l'd be cancelling right this second. Good grief. G Reply 61 3 ...
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    Font - Omgggggggg Cancel the trip and the friendship. She is a nightmare. NTA YWNBTA G Reply 57 + ...
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    Font - NTA. Why on Earth would you go on a bachelorette party for a wedding that is no longer happening? I could understand if it was some low-key, inexpensive girls trip to make her feel better if she had been a good friend and good person but this is none of those things. Do right by yourself and the other girls and save as much money as you can. G Reply 1 27 ... +
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    Font - NTA at all. This shouldn't even be a question. No marriage = no bachelorette party. %3D It would be one thing if everyone was happy as can be (I'm ignoring the current public health issue) and you all mutually decided to still have a fun girls' trip together, but that is obviously not the case here. Cancel as fast as fast can be and don't look back. 6 Reply 4 20 3 ...
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    Facial expression - Chubbybrownbear · 22h NTA. Not at all. Yes, it should definitely be canceled. Get your money back. If she wants to have a girl's night out - then do that but there's no reason to throw a big celebration when there isn't anything to actually celebrate. G Reply ...
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    Font - Internally_fuming • 21h NTA - her behavior is more than enough reason to cancel the trip, she doesn't deserve to be rewarded for being cruel. Are you friends with the other bridesmaids? Do you even still want to be friends with the bride? Figure out if you want to continue a relationship with this person and maybe message some of the other bridesmaids. Reply ...
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    Smile - lesija_callahan • 20h NTA. Cancel it all l'm sure your friends have much better uses for that money. Soon to be divorcee is going to be the only one who's pissed bc she's not getting a free trip. G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - Glittering-Dig9368 · 18h Geez, NTA. Cancel now cancel now cancel now. The single woman without a wedding in the future can pay and plan a party if she wants to. If she has any friends left. G Reply 3 ...
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    Handwriting - OneSuspect1 · 18h NTA. I don't even understand the dilemma. There's no wedding, so there's no bachelorette party. If the divorcée wants to pay her way then maybe it's just a girls trip for those that choose to go. Reply ...
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