Gluten Free Vegan Plus One Wants Wedding Catered To Her

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Eric Lund
Oct 31, 2021 5:00 PM EDT

In our world of diversifying diets, we find ourselves in awkward situations over people's dietary restrictions, or even just points they're trying to make. Basically the exact opposite of this situation happened when an uncle at a vegan wedding couldn't handle it and demanded a meat meal. The enduring fact seems to be that if you're a guest and getting a free meal, you're going to find your options limited.

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    Font - Posted by u/thruway1099367 18 hours ago WIBTA if I didn't plan my wedding menu around one guest? Not the A-hole Like many people who are preparing for their wedding, my fiance and I are trying to nail down a menu with our caterer. Our wedding is coming this summer, and we are at the point where we need to make decisions about our menu. Our caterer allows us two entree choices for the wedding menu- we definitely want one meat option and one vegetarian option because we have many guests who
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    Font - The problem, though, is one of our invited guests, Luke, will be bringing his girlfriend, Lisa, as his plus one. I do not know Lisa very well- we've only met about three times. In our limited interaction, she has made it very clear that she's a glutenfreegan (a gluten free vegan). The hangouts we have attended are memorable because she always brings baked goods, serves them to everyone, and then as soon as we finish eating them she smugly goes "HA! That was gluten free, dairy free, and ve
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    Font - Back to wedding planning, the menu we were ready to submit to our caterers included a cherry duck breast with leek mashed potatoes for the meat option , and a mushroom cream sauce pasta entree as the vegetarian meal. Luke texted us asking if we know what we will be serving, so we told him what the projected options are. He told us Lisa will be mad because the vegetarian option still includes lactose (cream sauce) and gluten (pasta). He gave her my phone number and she started- unsolicited
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    Font - I sympathize with Lisa, it is hard to have dietary restrictions. But changing an entire menu just for her doesn't work. The only vegetarian options we were given by the caterer all include pasta, and I am having a hard time finding ANYTHING that would fit for her special dietary restrictions but still serve the needs of other guests. WIBTA if I didn't change my wedding menu just for her?
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    Font - sour_lemons Colo-rectal Surgeon [45] 19 hours ago 2 3 NTA. I don't think you need to change your entire menu for her, but you can at least ask the caterer if they're able to accommodate one gluten free vegan meal for a guest with dietary restrictions. They may say no, or may charge you a nominal fee to accommodate, but it doesn't hurt to ask.
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    Font - shelbyknits Partassipant [2] 19 hours ago e NTA. When you have that kind of dietary restriction, it's unreasonable to expect everyone to accommodate you. But talk to your caterer and see if they can manage one “freegan" and what the cost would be. If they can't or it's prohibitively expensive, Lisa needs to eat beforehand.
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    Font - Mary_Misanthrope Partassipant [2] 19 hours ago O She can fill up on the fruit tray and vegetable crudites platter during cocktail hour. Then she can go graze on the lawn when everyone else is eating their delicious duck and pasta entrees.
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    Font - hello_detour Colo-rectal Surgeon [48] 19 hours ago - edited 14 hours ago I do not know Lisa very well- we've only met about three times. NTA. If it was your parents or someone you were closer to, then I'd say you should make more of an effort, but no, not for Lisa. If Lisa had asked you about ordering a separate meal for her, then it'd be N-AH but she cannot expect the world to revolve around her.
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    Font - lostlonelyworld Asshole Aficionado [19] 18 hours ago NTA. I have severe food allergies that prevent me from ever eating at anyones wedding. If the venue/caterer does not mind her bringing her own meal tell her to do that. Or she is an adult whose fully capable of figuring out her own meal plan without expecting YOUR wedding to center around HER needs. Shut this down and you need to shut friend down for giving out your contact information
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    Font - QuitFew751 Partassipant [1] 17 hours ago NTA, however Luke certainly is AH for giving out your person information like that without asking your permission first. His gf needs to understand that her dietary restrictions are her concern and this isn't a restaurant. Do not change your wedding menu for one person!
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    Human body - tiredFTM321 18 hours ago NTA. My husband has celiacs (gets really, really sick if he eats gluten) and he never expects to be catered to at events.
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    Font - Gannegreene1977 15 hours ago Caterer here, your caterer has a vegan gluten free dish just for this scenario. It ticks off most "I can't eat..." boxes. They likely would even have a few meals just in case someone at the reception asks for one. It happens all the time.
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