Man's Coworker Calls Herself His Work Wife, Gets Booted From Baby Shower

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mattstaff
Apr 16, 2021 1:00 PM EDT

It sounds like this guy's coworker was on some kind of wildly inappropriate mission to stir things up in his marriage, in a way that would create conflict between him and his wife. Especially considering the fact that his coworker had the audacity to continue cracking the "work wife" jokes along with other even more inappropriate jokes. It seems like the only viable option was to kick her out of the baby shower. 

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    Font - AITA for kicking my coworker out of my wife's baby shower? | (29m) work in a pretty tight workspace. We have about 9 of us in my department and it's a pretty even split between men and women. There's one coworker "Eva"(20f) who started working here a few months back. She's really good at her job and seems to get along with everyone. We get along well as we work on projects together and are usually in the group of people that are the last to leave most days. I learned some weeks ago that s
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    Font - I thought I had done a pretty good job nipping things in the bud after our conversation [I no longer heard the jokes from her] so I didn't think it would be an issue to invite her to my wife's baby shower. My coworkers are all vaccinated (our job helped us get them) and my wife WFH so there wasn't much concern for the sickness that shall not be named. Eva comes in and immediately starts back up with the jokes. "You're OP's home wife? Nice to meet you!", "it's so nice to see who takes care
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    Rectangle - Word got around to our coworkers what happened and while they agree that she was acting inappropriately, that I should have let her down a little easier, as it was "obvious she likes you OP". Am I really the kicking her out? for 5.4k 515 ↑, Share
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    Font - NTA, you already asked her to stop once before. Forcing the "work wife" thing outside of work is creepy and super unprofessional. She chose to leave, rather than stop like you asked. How dare she say such things in front of your wife at her baby shower? Gross. G Reply 4 1.4k 3 ...
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    Font - 1 Award NTA. I don't think "work wife" is cute, especially in that situation. Your wife was probably mortified, but I am sure it helped that you handled the situation and stood up for her. She must be very patient and sweet because I'm not sure I would have been able to keep my mouth shut. You have addressed this with Eva before... I'd borderline say it's harassment at this point. It's not cute, it's not funny and Eva needs to be a mature adult and act like a professional. Completely inap
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    Rectangle - 4 Awards NTA. Send HR an email about this behavior to get it on the record. G Reply 9.5k ...
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    Font - Davinaaa28 · 13h NTA. Not only is she acting unprofessionally after you've discussed the issue with her, it's kinda creepy she continues the fantasy in your own home. She knows you are married with a kid on the way. There is no excuse for her behavior. "Obvious she likes you" or not. It's beyond inappropriate and time for her to move on. G Reply 393 3 ...
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    Font - Carolinamama2015 · 13h NTA It's time to take this to HR and get it on paper before she starts making accusations against you G Reply 4 404 3 ...
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    Font - NTA That is a pathetic scene, sorry you experienced it. Hope it didn't ruin the overall experience G Reply 4 60 3 ...
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    Rectangle - NTA Whoa your co-worker was being incredibly inappropriate. And you actually gave her an option - she could have apologized. SHE chose to leave. G Reply 57 3 +
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    Rectangle - Embryw · 11h NTA I don't understand the whole "work wife/husband" thing. I think it's weird and, when someone's ACTUALLY married, I think it's pretty gross and disrespectful. Her behavior, especially since you'd already talked to her about it, is down right appalling. G Reply 企 29 3 ...
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    Mammal - If I met my husbands work wife they would be getting a work divorce NTA G Reply 4 25 3 ...
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    Font - aiyana_wolf • 9h Your wife is a much nicer woman than I am. l'd have clocked her when she kept on making horrid "jokes". Jokes are meant to be funny. If it's not funny and nobody likes it... it's not a damned joke. She should still apologize to your wife tbh. You're NTA but l'd let HR know what's up and soon. G Reply 4 27 3 ...
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    Smile - NTA. You created the boundary before the baby shower. She pushed and pushed and pushed and you cut it off. You kept your boundary. Bye bye crazy lady. G Reply 4 15 3 ...
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    Rectangle - HoundstoothReader • 11h I was once in this situation. Learned from HR that she had multiple complaints against her from doing this to men she'd worked with. And that her "jokes" didn't always stop with "joking." No idea why she still had a job there. G Reply * 15 3
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    Organism - JessonBI89 · 10h NTA. I don't know why people consider "But (s)he likes you!" a sufficient argument against putting your foot down in the face of undeniably inappropriate behavior. If I were your wife, Eva wouldn't have left the house with her hair. G Reply ↑ 12 ♡ ...
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    Smile - knittedjedi • 10h NTA. I'd get onto HR and make sure they're across everything that's happened. G Reply + ...
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    Smile - O BigAsparagus9383 · 9h NTA I cannot believe after you told her she was being inappropriate, she dialed it up to 100 in front of your wife and family. That's insane behavior. G Reply
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