Woman Gets Cut Off From Her Brother's Fiance After Questioning Their Relationship

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Sep 10, 2021 3:00 PM EDT

Ideally, it is nice when our significant other is able to become friends with our family members. If they don't mesh well it can lead to a lot of drama and uncomfortable family reunions. But is it possible that people can get a little too comfortable with your partner? Usually, it is the nosy mother who starts asking overly personal and pressuring questions, but any family member has the potential to overstep.

On Reddit's 'Am I The A-Hole' page a girl is asking he is an a-hole for asking his brother's fiance if she really thinks it's a good idea to marry her brother.

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    Font - r/AmltheAsshole + Join u/lyndseysonia • 11h 2 3 e 4 3 4 3 AITA - Brother cut me off for speaking with his Fiance
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    It was Reddit user u/lyndsey who asked if she was deserving of being cut off for speaking a little too candidly with her brother's fiance. This story requires a lot of context, because there are always certain contexts where it is justifiable to step in.

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    Font - AITA? I've had a good relationship with my brothers fiance (H) since they started dating a few years ago, and l've always made a conscious effort to make her feel as welcome as possible and we genuinely got on well. My brother (S) can be quite a difficult person and hates it if a situation is out of his control. We used to have a group chat with me, S and H. This was the only form of communication I had with H and I think it is so that S can oversee what is said.
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    Luckily she provides us with a lot of contexts. She has always been close with her brother's fiance. It seems she likes her even more than her own brother, which could be slightly problematic. Well, it quickly gets worse.

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    Smile - As H and I became closer and chatted more frequently about every day life, (tv shows, clothes, holidays etc) we had a lon1 chat on messenger so that we didn't bombard the group chat with boring stuff.
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    Font - One day as we were chatting about random TV shows etc the conversation got onto that she wants kids and is unsure if S wants them. I asked if they hadn't already discussed this as they're getting married next year, but she says when she approaches him about it he gets angry etc. She also brought up a number of things he does that - to me screams red flags... for example threatening to end things with her if she doesn't stop asking these questions and calling her lazy if she feels she want
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    Font - So here is where the 'AITA' comes in.. I asked her, if she genuinely feels that marriage is the right thing if she hasn't got the answers to the important questions she wants to know. I asked if she feels on edge and depressed around him all the time like she says, if marriage is really a good idea right now..
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    Font - Cut to a day or 2 later they're both home together (they both usually work away on opposite shifts so don't get to see each other much) I noticed my brother had blocked me on Facebook. I messaged H and asked if everything was OK and if she knows why S had deleted FB or blocked me. Rather than getting a response, she blocked me too.
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    Font - Font - I had to find out from my mother that he is cutting me out his life for doing what I did. I'm just not sure what I did wrong and was I out of line? Why did she block me too? I wonder if she showed him the messages or just told a one sided story to paint me in a bad light? I would appreciate input guys. Thank you! 4.0k 3 377 T, Share
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    Font - Font - lawlesscactus · 11h 2 Awards NTA - and l'm sure he's intercepted her messages and blocked you himself. He is abusive and controlling her access to communication. She knows you support her and hopefully she'Il get out of that relationship ASAP. 6 Reply 4 7.0k 3 ...
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    Font - Font - toeyilla_tortois · 10h NTA, your brother is an abuser. Hes threatening to end the whole relationship with her about a question. He forced his fiance to block you, that means he even has control over her social life. He mandates what she speaks or the way she like to exist.try to warn other family members only IF you truly trust them. Also has your brother always been that way with his romantic life or is it recent. Moreover the marriage is pretty sure a speedrun considering his cho
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    Font - Font - CoddiewompleAK • 11h NTA. I think you gave her some very good things to think about and did it out of concern for her. It sounds like your brother isn't treating her very well. It may cause some difficulties for you in the future, but if I were in her place I would want someone to try and do the same for me. G Reply 4 313 ...
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    Font - roadkillroyal · 11h Partassipant [1] NTA and I really hope she manages to see the red flags for what they are before things escalate even more. you 100% did the right thing and hopefully it planted the seeds in her head to coalesce all those things she mentioned into the bigger picture of it being abusive. G Reply 4 127 3 ...
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    Rectangle - 1_SEND_HELP_PLZ_1 • 10h NTA. Even if he's your brother, his behavior SCREAMS over controlling, possessive and toxic. You wanted to help the girl NOT rush into a toxic situation. G Reply 66 ...
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    Font - heresthegoodnews · 10h NTA. You showed compassion to this girl and tried to help her out knowing what your brother is like. You are quite correct about your brother, he's controlling, a bully and jealous but unfortunately you are gonna have to let it go. She's under his control and you can't help, she has to help herself, she may come round she may not. Stay away from them both, she knows you are there if and when she comes to her senses. G Reply 1 35 3 ...
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    Font - Orihime_inoue_15 · 9h NTA there are so many red flags here and I have a feeling he read the messages and blocked you himself. G Reply 1 25 3 ...
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