Jealous Woman Angry With BF For Keeping Healthy Relationship With Ex-Step-Daughter

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Mayarey
Jun 27, 2021 1:00 PM EDT

People who don't have the best of relationships with their families tend to be very suspicious of people who do. We all base our judgments on our past experiences, so it's natural to think this way. But once we start projecting our own issues on other people... well it's simply not a cute look. Everybody has their own definition of family, and who they choose to include in it is entirely up to them, and not their new girlfriend.

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    Font - Posted by u/qwrrtyuiopasdfgjl 7 hours ago AITA for including my ex's daughter in my life(sleepovers, vacation, etc)?
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    It was Reddit user u/qwrrtyuiopasdfgjl who took to the 'Am I The A-Hole' community to ask if he was in the wrong for putting in the effort to include his ex's daughter into his life. Yup, doesn't he sound straight-up evil already?

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    Font - Sorry if any of this gets confusing. I have a 5 year old daughter(Annie)with my ex. My ex also has an 8 year old daughter(Elsie)
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    Before diving into the story he provides some much-needed backstory. So, there are two children in his life. His biological daughter as well as his ex's young daughter. Anyone see any issues here yet?

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    Font - Ex and I broke up when the Annie was a little under 2 years old. It was really hard getting her for overnights because she had never been away from her home/mom overnight. We realized that she did much better if her older sister was there so she started coming, too.
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    Font - Annie has no issue staying the night by herself now but since I had to kind of keep playing step dad after ex and I broke up, elsie and I do have a bond of some sort. She will come stay the night most of the time unless she has other plans or her mom requests she stays home for some reason.
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    Font - My GF and I are trying to plan a little last minute vacation for august. We are going somewhere very family friendly so I said we should ask if elsie wants to join. Elsie has been on vacations with just Annie and i before. GF let out a big sigh when I said this. I was confused because up until this point, she's never expressed any issues with Elsie being around.
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    Font - We got to talking and she basically asked "when will this end? When Elsie is a teenager? When she graduates high school? When she gets married? Never?" I didn't know what to say because Elsie and Annie will always be sisters so yeah it will probably never end. Elsie is a good kid and Annie adores her so I've had zero hesitations about ever inviting her along to hang out with us. Plus I do feel bad for Elsie.
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    Font - Ex is a good mom and all but she can't really afford much outside of basic necessities and the occasional treat. There are lots of things elsie gets to do with us that her mom could simply not afford. And I feel like I sort of owe it to elsie. The only reason she started coming over was to help comfort her sister and she still is a big help with Annie.
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    Font - My GF is not happy with this situation suddenly. She's apparently been holding out hope that things were just like this because of the pandemic but it's “very concerning and inappropriate" to know that it's not the case.
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    Font - AITA for still inviting Elsie to hang out with us even if she's not my kid and I have no legal obligation to her? 192 Comments 97% Upvoted •••
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    Font - Why I might be the asshole: I'm including a kid who isn't my kid in to family things and it's making my GF uncomfortable
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    Font - _LaVidaBuena · 6h Asshole Enthusiast [5] NTA. You don't have an obligation to include Elsie, but it shows what a kind heart you have to do so. It would be very sad it you chose to cut her out completely just because your new girlfriend is jealous. Your gf is showing you how immature she is on this issue. If you give in on this with her, next she's going to be going after your daughter too. You need to set her straight that this is how your life is with your daughter and her half sibling.
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    Font - Apprehensive_Sand_77 · 6h Asshole Aficionado [19] NTA first of all, I think it's great that you're including both sisters and treating them as they are: sisters. You sound like a great dad to Annie and overall a nice dude. I think your GF needs to understand that this is the deal: you come with a kid, and the kid comes with a sister. Both of them are part of your family now, she is not the one to decide who gets to be part of your life. She can either accept that Elsie is part of your fam
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    Font - jtillery1 · 6h Asshole Enthusiast [8] NTA....but one thing to think on is how long before the GF starts saying the same thing about Annie? 4 277 Q Reply Share
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    Font - Giss88 · 6h Partassipant [3] NTA, as long as your ex and Elsie are ok with it. You're providing support for your biological daughter, and clearly have a good relationship with Elsie, probably even closer than if you were an uncle. Plus, like you said, she's your daughters sister. That will never change. 仓74 Reply Share •..
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