Crazy Mother-In-Law Fuming When Couple Won't Let Her House-Sit For Their Honeymoon

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Oct 31, 2021 11:00 AM EDT

When you marry someone, in a way, you also tied the knot with their family. Of course, this all depends on how close they are, and whether or not your spouse depends on them for anything. But once you sign that contract, your families are bound together. People are definitely capable of being amazing parents-in-law, but those families sound incredibly boring. It's the crazy in-laws that really spice up the family dynamic. 

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    Rectangle - Posted by u/throwaway_MIL_mess 19 hours ago AITA for not letting my MIL come over unsupervised? Not the A-hole
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    It was Reddit user u/throwaway_MIL_mess who took to the 'AM I the A-Hole' community page to see if they were in the wrong to setting boundaries with their mother-in-law in terms of when she can come into their home.

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    Font - Throwaway for anonymity. Mobile for formatting. Not quite yet MIL, but soon enough. In August my fiancé (“Emily", 35F) and I (33M) will be tying the knot. We were going to last year but with the pandemic and then a pregnancy everything had to be reoriented and it's been a big mess, frankly I'd settle for running down to the courthouse at this point. We've been together for eleven years, but had wanted to get settled before getting married.
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    Before diving into the story, the OP makes sure to provide some much-needed background info. He's not married yet to his fiance, but they've been together for a bit of a time now, and clearly, there are some people making this already stressful time even more difficult for them.

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    Font - I love my fiancé with my whole soul and her family is lovely- but they're a lot more... involved than I'm used to family being. Emily's mom, "Jen", is the worst offender by far though.
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    Font - The crux of the issue is Emily and I will be going on our honeymoon and I don't want Jen to house-sit as I don't trust her. Emily and I are already decided, but she's getting pushback from her family and having doubts.
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    Font - My reasons: Jen used to have a spare key to our house and she used to "tidy up" (she's tossed out sentimental items, and apologized after but "didn't know", and checked our voicemail and would leave notes) and check on our dog while we were at work. I frequently told her to stop, but she seemed to take it as being hesitant to accept help;
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    Font - it took Emily putting her foot down for Jen to agree to stop. She didn't, however, and did it two more times. Once while I was home alone showering and came to find her in our living room. The other time I came home from work and she bolted out of our bedroom.
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    Font - Our underwear drawer (!!) was open, as was our bedside table. After that, Emily and I took away her key, changed the locks, and that seemed to be the end of it.
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    Font - The boundary pushing doesn't stop there though. When Emily and I were trying for a baby, we had a lot of difficulty, and Emily confided that in her sister. Who then told Jen, and soon Jen was posting prayer requests to help us have a baby!
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    Font - Emily was mortified but Jen didn't seem to understand why what she did was wrong. To make it infinitely worse, when we did finally conceive, despite being told not to, she posted to Facebook, mass texts, you name it. She was just trying to help get the word out, but we didn't want her posting our business.
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    Font - She's also tried to help with the wedding twice: buying us a cake- flavors and design of her choosing, though she did try to get something to Emily's tastes- and telling Emily she doesn't need to go dress shopping because Emily can just use hers. She backed down when told no, but still makes jokes about wasting that money.
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    Font - Jen is an otherwise sweet woman, but she doesn't listen. I don't trust her in my house without someone there to keep her from snooping or "helping" more, and I'd be an anxious mess the whole trip. 203 Comments 98% Upvoted
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    Hair - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
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    Font - As Jen says, we aren't allowing her a chance to prove she's changed, and it's pointless to pay for a kennel while also spending so much on the wedding and honeymoon. I've also been very vocal about shutting her down after the baby incident, and Emily's siblings have told me I have gone too far, often citing the home security (actually not put up for Jen purposes, to be fair!) and the changed locks.
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    Font - If any information needs to remain a secret, I remind everyone multiple times not to post it on any social media, even 'vaguely', and Jen often says I treat her like a criminal- and in a way I guess I do, considering I don't let her in the house without someone home and put a lock on our bedroom door. She really does think that she's helping and Emily admits she's been like this for as long as she can remember, so it's a huge change for Jen to make.
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    Font - It's also humiliating for her to be thought of like she's this selfish busybody, when really she's just short sighted and too assured of her way being right.
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    Font - ExactingRook2822 · 19h Asshole Aficionado [18] NTA - It is your home, that means your rules. If you don't want her there anymore then that it absolutely acceptable. She has a history of not being trustworthy so you are more than in the right to stop giving her trust to throw away 1.8k Reply Share •..
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    Font - Parking-Fix-8143 · 19h As I see it, she HAS had a chance to change, but hasn't. She ignores boundaries, esp. her daughter's, and yours. This won't stop until you give her no physical opportunity to break a boundary. She might be a sweet woman otherwise, but she still tries to step over your boundaries. Stand your ground, physically and emotionally.
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