Husband Arranges Gym Membership For Wife, She Lies About Going And Sits In Her Car

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    Font - Posted by u/Weary-Yam-829 1 day ago AITA for lying to my husband about going to the gym? Asse OK so here's the basics, I (27 F) have been married to my husband (34M) for two years. we have two kids (11m, he's adopted and 1m). And he's a super fit guy. He likes to go camping, hiking swimming etc with our adopted son, i think that's why he wanted to adopt a kid tbh.
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    Font - I am not overweight or anything, but I'm not exactly in good shape. We tried to go on a family camping trip last fall but after about an hour i was just destroyed and we had to go back to the car. I hate working out, I hate being sweaty and working hard. But he was really upset with me. He thought that i was keeping in shape during the day because I'm a stay at home mom, he doesn't understand how much work a baby is. He works in IT so he spends all day sitting, not on his feet.
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    Font - Now, I promised to get in better shape, so he started paying for a professional child career to come over and look after the baby for two hours a day to give me a break, and signed me up for a gym. But after a month he came home angry and told me he talked to the gym and they hadn't seen me come in once. I told him it was a mixed gym and I'm not comfortable working out around men. I promised him I'd join curves and actually work out, and offered him he could track my phone to prove i was
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    Font - So i drive to the gym and i think... i hate the gym. i hate working out, and I'm an adult god damn it! So I just waited in my car. sometimes i wait in the café next to the gym or something. But i just haven't gone to the gym at al for the last two months. And he keeps asking me how I'm feeling and i keep saying it's great and I'm enjoying it. But yesterday he was waiting for me when i came home. he asked me how the gym was and i said it was great. he asked if i have any problems and i sai
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    Font - He's pissed, says I lied to him. i told him he kept pressuring me and it's making me really uncomfortable. He' been sleeping in his home office for the last week. I don't get the big deal, i told him i'll go to the gym for real but he says he doesn't care anymore and walks away.
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    Font - RoyallyOakie · 1 day ago 2 2 S 3 Professor Emeritass [94] YTA...To yourself. You're in a relationship where you have to lie. You're in a relationship with a man who calls a gym to check up on you. You're in a relationship with someone who is not respecting your wishes and your contributions. Be better to yourself by standing up for yourself.
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    Font - ArtlessOne - 1 day ago Partassipant [4] ESH. Your husband sounds controlling but that doesn't make it OK that you straight up lied to him about it. If you didn't want to go to the gym you should have told him that. You guys have issues you need to work out asap.
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    Font - Mental-Amphibian-154 · 23 hr. ago ESH. You, for lying and not standing up for yourself. Allowing him to pay for childcare and a gym, and then repeatedly making up reasons for not going. You could have had a simple conversation with him in regards to why you didn't want to go or work out and that you hate it. Him, for displaying controlling behavior and treating you like a child. Which, if my partner was lying and hiding stuff..I would want to find out as well and I'd probably do the same
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    Font - AlcatraZek · 23 hr. ago YTA. You're not "an adult, god damn it." You're a tweenager promising to brush your teeth and are throwing a tantrum because you got caught with a bone-dry toothbrush. Actually talk to your husband, explain your feelings towards exercise, and don't be surprised when your 2 hour breaks disappear. It's not a healthy relationship if he continues to pressure you to get in better shape after an honest heart to heart, but I don't think asking for you to last longer than
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    Font - Mad-Elf - 23 hr. ago YTA, definitely. You made a promise, your husband paid money to allow you to keep it; you broke your promise, then you lied about it. You've had two months to "be an adult" and state your case, but you just lied over and over and over. I do not blame your husband for walking away. You have established a pattern of being untrustworthy; no-one wants that in a partner. Especially if that duplicity comes bundled with throwing away money that could have been used for somet
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    Font - Mundane_Ambassador87 · 23 hr. ago Partassipant [4] ESH. he shouldn't be pressuring you about the gym if you don't want to go, but that doesn't excuse you lying to him. you guys sound like you have much bigger problems than a gym bro and a SAHM who doesn't want to work out.
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    Font - caz__z · 23 hr. ago Asshe Enthusiast [7]] YTA. You're "an adult god damn it," so act like it and tell your husband that you're not interested in going to the gym, and while you support him doing his thing, you're not doing it. If you want a compromise, invest in a treadmill so you can get used to basic hikes.
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    Font - odietamo90 · 22 hr. ago Assk Enthusiast [5] YTA 1. You lied repeatedly to him - while he was paying for services. 2. Your lack of communication skills - "you are an adult" then act like it and tell him no you don't want to. 3. You don't get the big deal? If your partner was to repeatedly lie to your face about things involving your time/spending would you not be concerned? 4. Is it pressuring you if you said you were up for it and wanted to go and gave false reasons as to why you hadn't?
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    Mammal - erinruthking · 23 hr. ago On the fence. He should not be forcing you to go to the gym. You should act like an adult and stop lying. This may be a marriage ender. You being a liar and he being obsessed with body image. ESH

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