Insensitive College Student Gets Woman Kicked Out Of Support Group For Slightly Older Than Participants

Support groups are meant to be safe spaces. People are there to hear each other's stories and genuinely learn from each other. Unless someone is being overtly creepy or inappropriate, they shouldn't be excluded from a support group. When the whole point of a support group is inclusion and understanding, excluding a particular member for a minute reason doesn't sound right to us. In today's 'Am I The A$$hole?' post, OP went out of her way to get a 26-year-old kicked out from a 25 and under support group in college because she felt that the woman was too old, and therefore OP didn't relate to the issues she was sharing. When the semester started, the woman was 25, so she had every right to be there. The fact that OP insisted on getting her kicked out shows how insensitive and unsupportive she is, especially when the rest of the support group went to hang out with her after they couldn't be in the group anymore. Scroll down for the all petty details.

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    Font - AITA for getting a 26yo woman from a 25 and under support group? My college has these support groups where students can, well, get help and support each other in the presence of a counselor. The one I attend is supposed to be for people 25 who moved for college and is going through adjustments related to moving. Most of the participants are (like myself)
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    Simply from the headline, we can already tell that OP is in the wrong here. Who cares if she's one year older than the age group? There are plenty of people of diverse ages that are able to relate to each other in support groups. Rue and Ali from Euphoria are very far apart in age group, yet they're still able to support and relate to one another. And yes, we know it's a TV show, but TV shows often mirror reality. 

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    Human body - freshman. There is one girl who is a graduate student and she also moved to this town for college. She was 25 back when the semester began so she was allowed to join.
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    The fact that she was 25 before the semester started proves our point even more. She's so close in age to them that it shouldn't even be a question whether she's allowed in the group or not. The fact that OP went out of her way to report her highlights how insensitive she is. 

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    Font - She mostly talks about like adjusting to life here in the new town, finding a part time job , struggling with her imposter syndrome and about missing her boyfriend who is going to move to join her this year etc. But the thing is...since she's older, it makes me (and some of the others although we don't
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    Font - say it out loud) uncomfortable that she's there. Like it just seems like she has different issues with adjusting. I honestly don't know why she bothers coming since it must be clear that none of us can relate and most of us kind of find her issues are in a different stage of life.
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    Font - So anyway, I discovered that her birthday was in December which means she turned 26 already so I went to the counselor and told her this. Counselor said she was aware of it and that she had spoken to the 26yo and she asked to be allowed to join in until the end of this semester (which ends in late March). I wasn't entirely happy with that since they are breaking the rules so I let the admin section in charge of the support groups know this and well, they emailed her and she
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    Font - doesn't come anymore. The counselor must've also got reprimanded or something cause the last session she made a "statement" regarding how she was sorry for allowing someone to violate our safe space. She didn't say anything to me directly but during her statement she said she was only trying to help someone and that's why she did it. I couldn't help feel a little bad since well, 26yo is also a new student and all that but at the same time *she* was breaking the rules.
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    Font - A couple of other students have mentioned that they missed her and even arranged to hang out with her. I though that was weird since she is older. Like why is this 26yo hanging out with 19yo's? She does hang out with people her own age but I still find it strange. AITA?
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    Smile - aghzombies · 3 hr. ago 2 S Partassipant [1] YTA. Go out and touch some grass, friend.
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    Human body - Dashcamkitty · 1 hr. ago The OP needs to grow up and get to grips with that fact they are an adult in uni, not a school child. Adults speak to and mingle to people of all ages.
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    Organism - BoogelyWoogely · 17 hr. ago Makes me wonder if OP has even had a job yet?? I don't even understand why they find it weird that someone would want to go to a support group when they obviously need support, nothing weird about it. I went to a support therapy group when I was 16 and nearly all the people there were adults. But even though we were all at different stages of life we all had similarities in our struggles. So sad that the 26 year old got kicked out because OP is ignorant
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    Font - Krobakchin · 18 hr. ago Yep, YTA - fortunately seems like some of your fellow students agree and are continuing with the whole friendship/support thing.
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    Font - missteacher2 · 19 hr. ago · edited 17 hr. ago O 2 Asshole Aficionado [15] YTA. You have NO compassion for someone who is struggling. She turned 26 2 months ago. What difference does 2 months make? You clearly need to work on yourself and how to treat others. And when does it matter that you HAVE to have friends exactly your age?! People have friends of all ages. Doesn't mean it's odd. Seriously, your thinking is messed up.
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