Man Refuses To Drive Pregnant Wife With Abdominal Pain To Hospital After His Night Shift

Many people have issues getting pregnant, so if a couple actually succeeds, they should be very careful in the next nine months when it comes to the baby's well-being. Unfortunately, many things can go wrong during a pregnancy, and a couple should be equipped with all the knowledge they need to make sure everything goes smoothly. Of course, not everything is in the expecting parents' control, but they can try their best to constantly check in on the baby, as well as the mother carrying the baby. In today's 'Am I the A$$hole?' post, OP shared how exhausted he was after a night shift, so when his pregnant wife asked if he could drive her to a doctor's appointment in the morning when he was about to go to sleep due to the fact that she had pain in her lower belly, he said no because she should have told him earlier if she needed a ride. The thing is that she didn't know that she was going to have pain, so there was no way of planning in advance. The thing about adulthood and parenthood is that emergencies come up, so he should have been able to hand a change in plans, especially if he's about to be a dad. 

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    Font - Y r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/TheSanders111 A 11 hours ago AITA for not driving my wife to her Doctor appointment after I got off work and telling her to reschedule?
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    At first glance, it seems like the wife is in the wrong because OP just finished a night shift and probably doesn't have the energy to drive. The thing about being an expecting dad is that OP is supposed to care if his pregnant wife is in pain because it's probably an emergency relating to the pregnancy. Even if his wife wasn't pregnant, he still should have cared about her pain. We get that it's not safe to drive when you're exhausted, but he could have taken a cab or an Uber with her to emotionally support her and see if everything was okay. 

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    Font - Tuesday, I was covering a nightshift and came home in the morning at exactly 10AM. I was so exhausted and was about to go to bed when my wife told me she needed me to drive her to her doctor appointment. This is not what we agreed upon, as far as I knew she told me her mom was coming to pick her up but, she said her mom called and said she couldn't come. I told her I just got off work
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    If he thinks that everything's going to be planned out in advance once they have a baby, he's got a seriously rude awakening coming his way. People always say that we'll never understand what parenthood is like until we become parents ourselves. When the baby comes, he or she is not going to let OP sleep after a night shift because babies don't care if you're tired. If he's annoyed about having to drive his pregnant wife to the doctor when she's in pain, maybe he should reconsider becoming a dad. He needs to reevaluate where his priorities lie and treat his wife right. 

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    Font - and wouldn't be driving her to the clininc and also told her to reschedule. she argued that she couldn't reschedule because she has been feeling pain in her lower belly (she's 4 months pregnant) and needed to see the doctor. I told her she should've told me beforehand, otherwise I would've just skipped the nightshift altogether. She insisted and I told
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    Human body - her to either find her own ride or reschedule cause I was too tired to get behind the wheel. She was upset but ended up rescheduling and going 2 days later.
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    Font - When she came back from the appointment she started yelling names at me like irresponsible and selfish. I asked what was wrong and she said that the doctor told her her pain needed early intervention and that she could've had a miscarriage after I refused to drive her to the clininc. I was shocked to know that but she insisted that I apparently don't give a shit about her or the baby to be acting so carelessly and neglectful. I told her she should've told me that her mom couldn't
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    Font - drive her that day but she blamed me solely saying this is all on me and I'm treating her as 2nd class citizen. I had it I said yes she's pregnant but she isn't disabled and can use public transportation, not have me driving after working all night. She didn't like none of what I said and couldn't reply just left the room.
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    Plant - She's still pissed at me acting like this is all happening because of me amd refusing to accept that part of the blame falls on her. She keeps saying she could've lost the pregnancy and I'm responsible for this.
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    Font - Neo_Mad_Hatter · 11 hr. ago 3 O Do you think when you have this child you won't have to do things after getting off a long night shift or having next to no sleep? Cause boy are you in for a surprise. YTA, your child's medical needs are both your responsibility.
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    Font - tightgermangirl · 10 hr. ago He could've just taken a taxi or uber with her. He didn't even try to find a solution except for telling her to either get there herself somehow or reschedule.
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    Font - DinaFelice · 11 hr. ago Professor Emeritass [71] ESH. The reason you shouldn't drive is that it was unsafe to drive tired and it risks both your lives as well as your unborn child. Not because it's inconvenient. Complaining that she didn't tell you ahead of time was ridiculous and petty in light of her symptoms
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    Font - witchyboymax · 11 hr. ago Partassipant [1] YTA- it really sounds like her mom cancelled on her and she really needed a ride. It's hard to find a bus schedule and be on time when you've already made the appointment You don't seem to have any sympathy for your pregnant wife which is concerning
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    Rectangle - aestep1014 · 11 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [13] Yta. Seriously. You buried the lead there with pregnant wife needed to go to the doctor with abdominal pain... Good grief.
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