Bridezilla Fuming When Wedding Guests Decline Invite Due To Ridiculous Requirements For Their Plus Ones

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Apr 13, 2022 2:30 PM EDT

Weddings are supposed to represent the love and harmony that set the backdrop for the union of two lovebirds. However, there's so much drama that goes into the planning that ultimately takes away from the love and harmony, which totally sucks considering how much money and effort is going into this one special day. In today's 'Am I the A$$hole?' post, OP is a bride who has put forth insane requirements for people's plus-ones at her wedding. She and her husband decided that if the plus ones don't meet the requirements that the two of them set forth, then they're not allowed to attend the wedding. Even if a couple is in a long-term relationship, if one of them doesn't meet the ridiculous requirements, then that person can't attend the wedding. Many people ended up declining their invite because of the requirements for their plus-ones, which the bride found shocking and disrespectful. Scroll down to read all about the plus-one requirements. 

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    Font - r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/TAplusonedrama 21 hours ago A2 82 2 32 3 AITA for my reasons of no plus ones on my wedding, causing several people not to attend?
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    Let's hear what turned the guests off about the bride's rules. 

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    Font - I'm getting married and like every other bride, I too have certain rules I want for my wedding to go smoothly. One of them is the no plus ones rule. Only people named in the invitation are invited. The criteria I have for people who will get to bring their partners are :
    via u/TAplusonedrama

    Let's see if OP's criteria is legit.

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    Font - 1. BOTH me and my fiancé know of your partner and have met them. If I know your partner and my fiancé doesn't, that disqualifies them and vice versa. 2. If I'd personally go to dinner with you and your partner.
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    Font - 3.if I'd invite your partner as a seperate person anyway and not just because they're your partner. 4. If your partner is also a friend of mine.
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  • 05
    Font - Those who meet that criteria get to bring their partners. If they don't, then they don't bring them. Simple. That also excludes long term relationships, engaged couple and married couples as well. We know it might seem harsh but those are the rules we've decided to set so we can be more comfortable. It has nothing to do with budget or venue capacity. Purely our choice.
    via u/TAplusonedrama
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    Font - Several people have denied the invitation to our wedding due to these rules. One of them is also my cousin. My cousin has been engaged to this girl for 1 year now and he was upset we didn't include her. The reason she was excluded was because my fiancé hasn't met her and she's not a person I'd personally be friends with either. I told my cousin how heartbroken I am that he will
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    Font - not come to the wedding due to this and I expressed my distaste for the fact that he can't be away from his fiancée for few hours to honor me and my fiancé. Couples don't have to be together the whole time.
    via u/TAplusonedrama
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    Human body - Then he basically told me I'm being extremely disrespectful and a huge AH. I asked him to explain and he said word for word
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    Rainbow - "Let me get this clear. You want me to come to honor you to your wedding, honor your love story and all that, but you can't respect me enough to invite my fiancée? I can be without my fiancée for several hours. Heck we even spend days apart in vacations with our own seperate friend groups sometimes. What bothers me is not me being away from my fiancée for some hours, but the fact that you excluded her for those reasons. "
    via u/TAplusonedrama
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    Font - I told him those are the rules. Take it or leave it. He says he finds my rules extremely disrespectful but since its my wedding he has no say in it. I told him good, and to stop bullshitting me then and show his support and respect by attending. He said that while he respects my extremely exclusive and disrespectful rules, I am a fool to believe that he will care more about valuing my wedding over his fiancée. AITA?
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    Font - pissingoffpe Partassipant [3] hr. ago YTA - for guilt tripping your cousin and anyone else you try to pull this shit with. Your wedding, your rules, BUT people are allowed to not attend for not liking your rules. Suck it up.
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    Rectangle - HeyZuesHChrist - 18 hr. ago 3 e 3 Only OP appears to be able to have rules. The cousin's rule is to not attend weddings where he can't bring his fiance, which I find to be totally reasonable. OP doesn't believe others are allowed to be upset with her rules but she is allowed to be upset with other's rules.
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    Font - VisualCelery · 17 hr. ago 32 S There was a viral Tumblr post that explained, some people think respect is being treated like a person, others think it's being treated like an authority, so when some people (like OP) say "if you won't respect me I won't respect you," what they're really saying is they won't treat you like a person if you don't treat them like an authority.
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    Font - tinny36 · 18 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [16] I mean, OP, what is the purpose of inviting people to your wedding? Do you just want to look around and familiar faces and feel 'loved'? Or do you also want them to have a great time? Your rules are your rules, whatever...but they are very restrictive, very high school, and aside from the ones who will come, or come begrudgingly, I'll tell you, will cause a major preoccupation when your guests start asking each other 'yeah, so how did YOU guys
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    Font - j_allosaurus · 18 hr. ago e S OP: "These are my rules, take it or leave it." OP's cousin: "I choose leave it, and I won't attend." OP: Shocked pikachu face.
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