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Entitled Karen Expects Her Sister To Stop Fostering Dogs So She Can Continue Babysitting Her Kids For Free

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    Human body - Posted by u/Throw_away_no374828 12 days ago 2 AITA for asking my sister to stop fostering dogs so she could help me with my kids?
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    Font - Okay just writing the title like that made me feel super guilty, but please hear me out before judging too harshly.
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    Font - I (38 F) have 4 kids ages 11 months, 3, 5, and 10. I love them all more than anything, but I'll be the first to admit that our house is constant chaos and it can get very exhausting. My sister (33F) is child free, but loves my kids and was happy to watch the older 2 or sometimes 3 to help me keep my sanity. This has been extremely helpful and I tell her all the time how grateful we are for her help.
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    Font - The thing is that the kids used to go over to her house, but right now they couldn't because my sister was fostering an elderly chihuahua. My sister claims she couldn't have them over for the time being because they would stress out the dog. Her dog was extremely frail and timid so I think this was a fair assessment. This was the 4th dog she has fostered, all of which couldn't be around my kids. This most recent dog took 8 months to find a home for, but most of her other dogs took even lo

    "This was the 4th dog she has fostered, all of which couldn't be around my kids. This most recent dog took 8 months to find a home for, but most of her other dogs took even longer. When she told me she found an adopter I knew I could finally breathe a sigh of relief and joked about how I was so glad she could babysit again." 

    You know you're in a bad situation when your sigh of relief comes at the expense of someone else. 

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    Font - My sister proceeded to tell me that there was a second dog that desperately needed a new foster, so she planned to take in that one as soon as her current dog was gone. So, she couldn't do anymore babysitting than she already is (sometimes she comes over to my house in the morning to help out). I could literally feel my stress levels spike. I haven't ever done this before, but I opened up to her about how much I have been struggling since she got the dog. How little sleep I get each night

    "I could literally feel my stress levels spike. I haven't ever done this before, but I opened up to her about how much I have been struggling since she got the dog. How little sleep I get each night, how my husband hasn't been helping as much as he should, and some other deeply personal issues that I've been struggling with."

    Okay…but how is this related to OP's sister? It's not. 

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    Font - She comforted me, but ultimately didn't agree on anything and said she needed some time to think. I know I am asking a lot of her since rescuing dogs is her passion and that is why I feel so guilty. But I don't have anyone else to help me. I can't afford a babysitter long term, and my friends all have their own kids to look after. Above all, my kids will always come before a dog and that's the reason I was willing to request it. I've told a few different people about the situation and got
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    Font - one_1f_by_land · 12 days ago · edited 11 days ago O Asshole Aficionado [15] 3 & 120 More YTA. Absolutely no one loves to admit this to themselves, but your own life choices led you to this point. Your exhaustion, your sleepless nights, that fact you're broke, your inability to find a consistent babysitter... these are all problems you've invented for yourself by having children outside your means. Your sister's time isn't any less valuable just because she's child-free. Child-free people
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    Font - DestructiveWisdom · 12 days ago This. She even specifies that rescuing dogs is her sister PASSION but, still asked her to stop doing the things she enjoys so her sister can watch her kids instead of their own father. The harsh truth is, you kids may come before a dog to you, but no else is responsible for your kids but you. I was sympathetic until I read that. YTA
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    Font - megzesq · 12 days ago Yeah this made me mad. She says that her kids "will always come before a dog" to justify making her sister take care of the kids (heavily guessing she does this for free), but it sounds like her kids don't come before... whatever their own father is doing instead of helping. OP, YTA for being so entitled. Tell your husband to help instead of making ridiculous demands on your sister's lifestyle. It sounds like she's helping you a lot and you should be grateful.
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    Font - MakeupForBarnie · 12 days ago Asshole Enthusiast [7] ΥΤΑ lol Do you even hear yourself? "My sister won't give up her passion to care for my kids." You said you can't afford a long term babysitter!!!! You're using your sister as a long term babysitter?
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    Font - Apprehensive_Leek199 · 12 days ago & 26 More I think you might be too deep into your own exhaustion to realize your entitlement. This is a wake up call to reevaluate the structure and order in which you're living right now. Try thinking about it from your sisters point of view. How would you feel if you already had your own life, hobbies, and work to do and your sister expected and somewhat demanded you to care for her children. From what I'm reading she is putting in a lot of her time an

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