Pet sitter commits to work on Labor Day weekend, pet sitting for a client, only for her boyfriend to throw a tantrum when he discovers her plans: ‘You need my approval’

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    Pet sitter and dogs are ready for walk
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    AITAH because I committed to pet sitting before I started seeing the guy I’m currently with?

    So I picked up pet sitting regularly when I was a vet tech 8 years ago. I still use it for additional income and this year has been hard to say the least.
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    I don't often do overnights anymore the past few years because it can be so cumbersome except for a few friends and established clients who don't ab e me.
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    So for Labor Day weekend, back in July, I had an old client reach out to me and ask if I would be willing to pet sit for her.
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    I said absolutely and she said she would finalize the details as we got closer. So she just finalized them yesterday.
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    I told my SO that last night I'd be pet sitting "x" amount of days and they flipped out. Telling me it was weird to be in someone else's house.
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    They said if we had plans I would have to cancel and I need to communicate better.
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    They then proceeded to tell me that I need to get their approval for any job I pick up moving forward.
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    They don't pay my bills, and I need additional pay when my job is stagnant as I'm commission based.
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    I feel like I'm being controlled and that this isn't a ridiculous job to pick up nor something that should be this big of a deal.
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    Dogs on leash ready for a walk
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    BenitoCamelo74 NTA. This comment right here: "They then proceeded to tell me that I need to get their approval for any job I pick up moving forward" this should be a huge red flag for you. You need to break up and run away from this control freak.
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    Moist-Map9948 OP Honestly that comment is what drove me here. But then my mother sided with him so i felt beyond conflicted. But my mother married a wildly narcissistic controlling man.
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    BlondDee1970 NTA but your boyfriend is P
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    Moist-Map9948 OP This made me actually spit my tea ⑲
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    ellienation NTA, unless you two have kids or a business that you run together or something, there's no reason you should have to get your work schedule approved by your SO. I'd understand wanting a heads up as to when you're free, but his reaction seems over the top. How long have you been dating? Is this a new development?
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    Moist-Map9948 OP Weve been official for a few months and kinda living together organically. We have known each other for 3+ years
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    EwwDavvidd NTA. Sounds a bit controlling. Maybe he meant more like let's communicate and discuss before agreeing to anything? I don't know. Up to you how you proceed.
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    Moist-Map9948 OP Yeah i could go either way. We are also battling some major cultural differences too which has not bee super easy.
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    maverick0510 NTA. This guy has some serious control issues. I would leave him now.
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    Intrepid-Implement59 NTA. You made a professional commitment and you have to take care of your bills. He sounds controlling.

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