Husband Attempts to Interrupt Wife's Interview, Sulks When Locked Out

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    Font - Posted by u/the54756 AITA for locking the door to prevent my husband from getting involved in my job interview? I (/F33) am unemployed but God knows I had been looking for jobs (I'm a sale's rep) for well over 5 months, right after I recovered from my knee surgery. My husband has a high paying job, first he suggested I leave my career as sales rep behind [not up to his wealthy family's standards, they'd mocked me for it a lot] and stay home but I refused because I love my job and want to
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    Font - Several days ago, I'd gotten a job interview and after getting inside the room and before the interview started I locked the door. My husband tried to come in and started knocking on the door asking why I was locking the door and telling me to let him in. I put my headphones on and used noise cancelling but he kept knocking telling me to open the door. After the interview was over I unlocked the door and walked out. He went off on me calling me disrespectful and awful to lock him out like
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    Font - corrin_avatan 5 hr. ago edited 4 hr. ago 3 & 8 More Certified Proctologist [22] NTA, and you KNOW this isn't about him wanting to help, this is about him trying to control you. If you TRULY love this dude and think this relationship is something worth attempting to redeem, this is MORE than enough grounds for going to couples therapy so that he can work though issues with boundaries or telling you the truth about why he wants to "help" with interviews when he should know DAMN WELL at his
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    Font - Because this is such a massive red flag that if you DONT think he is too rich to understand how normal jobs work, that I would be REALLY concerned about how many other ways he sabotages your life. Seriously, what is his response to "they are interviewing ME not YOU, and you butting into an interview and taking it over is going to guarantee I don't get a job I want?" 13.5k Reply Share
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    Font - rpsls 4 hr. ago I know this sub likes to throw around the term "gaslighting" a lot, but him trying to convince you that you can't have a successful interview without him and that what he's doing is actually helping seems like it might actually be it. Good luck on the interview process and lock the door every time, and when you actually get the job continue to keep your guard up. Be ready to get out in case his controlling side gets out of hand. NTA. 3.0k Reply Share
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    Font - Joxem13 9 hr. ago Pooperintendant [52] NTA, your husband doesn't want you to get a job. Idk if it's about control or pettiness but Jesus Christ he is a grown man and not your dad. Is helicopter spouse even a thing? 2.5k Reply Share Chaosifized 9 hr. ago S Yes. It's like smothering a candle's flame (the person being watched over) until it becomes smoke, and making it rely on the spouse to light it again 690 Reply Share Sewasmiles 8 hr. ago . Nice description of co-dependency. Haven't seen
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    Font - realghostofchaos 9 hr. ago Partassipant [3] Ma'am what he's doing is emotional and mental abuse. You do not need that and do not need him. Run, do not walk away from that relationship if he and his family are like that. 1.9k Reply Share eaca02124 9 hr. ago . Certified Proctologist [25] It's also financial abuse. He's making it impossible for OP to get a job, which will result in him having more control over her and the household. 867 ●●● Reply Share LingonberryPrior6896 · 6 hr. ago Partas
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    Font - Maybeidontknow999 hr. ago 5 Partassipant [4] ΝΤΑ It was the only way to keep him out. Your husband sandbagged all your other interviews and called you childish and petty for having to make certain he didn't blow this one. Why are you with someone who calls you names? Why are you with someone who sabotages your life? Why are you with someone who allows his family to mock you? Why are you with someone who get's offended for being called on his bad behavior. 976 Reply Share
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    Font - Margaret HaleThornton 9 hr. ago Partassipant [2] NTA and while I usually don't jump to this you need to leave your husband. He is being emotionally manipulative and it's going to go into financial manipulation next. This is just unacceptable, I literally can't think of anything that would make me think you should stay in this relationship. 396 Reply Share Keboyd88 7 hr. ago It's already financial manipulation. He's been preventing her from getting a job (and therefore a paycheck) for 5 mo
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    Font - Alternative_Year_3409 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [35] NTA please lock down your birth control so he can't interfere with that. And change all of your passwords - including the bank security questions so he doesn't try to interfere with your job hunt in other ways. 323 Reply Share
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    Font - guessmyageidareyou - 9 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [38] ΝΤΑ Holy controlling behavior! Your husband doesn't want you to get a job, and he's purposefully sabotaging you. Time to leave the hubby OP, cuz he's throwing more red flags than a football referee. 215 Reply Share

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