Girl's Step Sister & Step Father Call Her Spoiled Over Not Sharing Family Heirloom

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Aug 26, 2022 7:00 PM EDT

Let's start off by saying I would never ever be caught wearing my mother's wedding dress. It's lacy, poofy, extremely dated, and not even close to being my size. She looked beautiful in it, but in like an 80s way. I'll just get my own dress. 

In this Am I The A$$hole post, OP writes about how her mother has always promised that OP could wear her wedding dress from her wedding with OP's late father- who had a dress handmade and designed for her mother. But, OP's mother remarried to a man with children and his daughter wants to wear this wedding dress in order to save money, and doesn't care about the sentimental factor to OP. Both OP's step father and step sister call OP selfish by not sharing this wedding dress.

Read below for more context for this situation. Should OP be ok with sharing the wedding dress? Are OP's step sister and step father being unfair in their request for the dress? Should OP's mother be putting her foot down in this situation? Let us know down below how you would react in this situation. I can't say I would be bursting with excitement to share this wedding dress with my step sister, but maybe one of you guys can change my mind. 

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  • 01
    Font - 020 r/AmIthe Asshole Posted by u/-Sun-2462 14 hours ago 58 34 2 AITA for telling my stepsister she can't wear my mom's wedding dress I(16f) grew up without a father for a long time it was just me and my mom. Last year my mom got married to my step dad brad. Brad has 2 kids Tessa(f26) and Jake(m18) 2 my dad passed away shortly after I was born leaving my mom in mountains of debt. The one thing she refused to sell was her wedding dress. She always talked about how it was her dream for me to
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    sounds like a tough situation for a young girl to deal with

  • 02
    Font - My mom brought up the fact that she wasn't comfortable with that since she was saving the dress for me. But Brad said my mom should agree since she now has two wedding dresses and I can wear the other one. Tessa also pointed out that the dress would need so many alterations to even fit me since I'm much shorter than my mom and I'm not as thin as my mom. Tessa also said it would be years before I'd need it so it wasn't gonna be an issue. My mom was on the fence about it but Brad was all fo
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  • 03
    Font - HowlingWolves24 . 14 hr. ago Partassipant [3] ΝΤΑ It's sentimental to you, and Brad is really over here trying to bully your mom into ignoring your feelings Reply Share Report Save Follow 20.3k
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    Font - Status-Pattern7539 14 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [40] ΝΤΑ 34 & 10 More She is trying to pull a power move. Sneak the dress out to someone you can trust to hold onto it for you. Your mum needs to take the lead here and tell them no. Shut the argument down. If she falters, "why are you prioritising her want of a free dress over the sentimental value it holds to me. If you give her the dress I am telling you this will permanently damage our relationship, as you will be saying her wants are
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    Sky - TalkingCapibara 14 hr. ago Partassipant [2] NTA. Why can't she wear the dress yout mom married Brad in? 43.7k Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - sjeatz 14 hr. ago NTA, Tessa isn't recognizing the significance the dress holds for you. You don't want JUST your mom's wedding dress, you want the one your dad bought especially for her. It was promised to you and that should stand whether or not it would need alterations. 1.9k Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - bippityboppitynope 14 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [12] NTA and honestly if I was your mom I would be considering a divorce. 1.3k Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - Ju5tSomebody Els3 14 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [13] NTA. She doesn't want it for any sentimental reason, can't she just have the other wedding dress and be done?! Reply Share Report Save Follow 996
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    Font - No-Train8518. 14 hr. ago Partassipant [1] NTA. your step family are bullies. YouR mom just got a huge red flag on her husband and stepdaughter. If there is a safe place not at your home to store the dress at, I would secure it there. Reply Share Report Save Follow 498
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    Font - Majestic-Leopard-563 14 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [6] NTA you should not apologise at all, you did nothing wrong! Your mum has been telling you for years that the dress is for you to wear when you get married! Your mum wore a different dress when she married Brad so his daughter can wear that one! Why does it have to be YOUR dress she wants to wear?? Reply Share Report Save Follow 287
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    Font - masoj3k 14 hr. ago Partassipant [3] NTA. This should be a massive line in the sand you draw from which you will not backdown from and let your mother know it. The dress goes beyond just a great dress, it is a sentimental tie from your father (and mother) and you likely very limited ties of this significance left from your father. Let you mother know if she agrees then she is crapping on the memory of your father in your eyes as she is saying the dress has no significant ties to your fathe
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    Font - NiteGrimwood. 13 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [37] ΝΤΑ Your mom said no brad said he doesnt care and its happening RED FLAG 221 Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - Minute_Box3852 . 14 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [15] Nta And op...she wants your mom's special dress your dad made BECAUSE SHE KNOWS ITS MEANT FOR YOU. She's doing this as a show to you that she plans to be the favorite. And her dad is a for it. Do not allow her to do this. Stand your ground and make it clear to everyone, esp your mom, that this isn't right for your step-dad and stepsister to pull this. Your mom needs to put them in their place. Absolutely deplorable behavior, the both of
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    Font - VeeRook 14 hr. ago NTA. Is it possible to leave the dress at a grandparent's/friend's/etc house without Brad or Tessa knowing where it went? Reply Share Report Save Follow 148
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    Font - Dubious People Pleaser 11 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Text your mom "This is the last thing I have of dads. You have told me it was mine for years. To me it is special and holds a big place in my heart. Now you want to give it to Tessa. Not because she needs it or because it is special to her, but just because she wants it. And then Brad calls ME the spoiled one. Tell me how this is fair? Tell me how this is right? Tell me when it became more important to give Tessa something pretty over bre
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    Font - TackiestSasquatch 13 hr. ago NTA - I really don't like Brad. Maybe it's just me, but isn't it kinda weird for his daughter to wear the dress that his current wife wore to marry another man? A dress that was commissioned by that other man for his current wife? Why's he pushing so hard for that? And Tessa doesn't deserve an apology. Your reaction is completely understandable, given the dress has such sentimental value. 100 Reply Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - Invisigoth2113 · 14 hr. ago Partassipant [4] NTA. It should be disgusting to your mother, how little respect these AHs have for you. Brad and Tessa can go eat a slimy bag of pickled f**k. 95 Reply Share Report Save Follow
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