'If you want to see me in the morning, walk to the couch, there I am': Snoring husband requires partner to sleep in his bed

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    Font - 4 AITA for not wanting to sleep in the same bed as my husband? r/AmItheAhole Posted by u/throw_away_58582057 8 hours ago I (26m) and my partner (30m) have been together for 8 years. When it's time for sleep I prefer to sleep separately for several reasons and have been doing so most of our relationship. Forgive my formatting or grammar I'm writing this on my phone at 2am. 1. he snores horrifically bad and refuses to address it. The snore preventing nose tape hasn't worked. 2. he is a big
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    Font - 4. he prefers really soft mattress and I prefer firmer bedding. 5. he always kicks off all the blankets and I end up in a mountain of blankets and wake up sweaty and over heating if i do manage to fall asleep. Those are my reasonings, I usually sneak off once he has fallen asleep to sleep on the couch because I really can't sleep and just want to sleep. He gets really sad and upset because he likes to wake up next to me in the morning. But I really would like to get 8 hours of non broken
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    Font - KaliTheBlaze. 8 hr. ago Craptain [191] NTA. If he wants you to share the bed, he needs to address the problems that are making you leave! It sounds like a king sized bed with adjustable slats might help a lot. With adjustable slats, you can make the support under the mattress firmer or softer, which changes the bed more than you'd expect. My husband and I used to have a set, before we found a Goldilocks mattress that we both tolerated - his side had the slats set about 90% firm, while my
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    Font - Soy BoxedWineIsClassy 3 min. ago Partaccipant [2] NTA I had similar issues with my husband. Solution: purple mattress (king) and he has a CPAP now. He feels more well rested and his snoring sounds like one of those white noise machines which is far easier to sleep through. Also we have different covers.
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    Font - Left-Car6520 - 8 hr. ago Craptain [168] What astounds me most about this story is how common it seems to be. I've read it half a dozen times on here. How are there so many men out there who refuse to make it so their partner can sleep comfortably and then cry poor them when she sleeps somewhere else?? OP: 1. Get a proper bed of your own so you don't have to sleep on the couch 2. Openly go there when you are ready to go to sleep. There's no reason you should have to sneak off. 3. Ask your
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    Font - Tall-Poem-6808 - 7 hr. ago People, not men. I had to fight with my wife for her to understand that a) we need a bigger bed because she tends to sleep "in the middle" and that leaves less than 1/4 of the bed for me, b) we need different mattresses because we like different firmness, c) we need separate blankets because she rolls herself in and there's nothing left for me when I go to bed. She got really offended at first, for similar reasons as OP's husband. So yeah, not a men issue.
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    Font - Yvette-Miu-Miu-Mom 8 hr. ago As hole Enthusiast [5] Definitely record his snoring, about an hour's worth so he can see just how disruptive it is. Then, next time you're hanging out chilling, let it play for him. NTA

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