Mom Lets Son's Ex-Girlfriend Stay With Her, Then Attends Her Graduation Instead of His

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    Font - r/AmItheAhole Posted by u/Bun_Range363 23 hours ago 32 3 AITA for attending my son's ex- girlfriend's graduation over his own? A hole When my son was in middle school, he was best friends with a girl named S, who he started dating right around when he started high school. S had a poor relationship with her family, and was such a sweet girl so I was more than happy to include her in all our family activities: vacations, dinner, etc.
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    Font - Around Christmas of their senior year my son told me that S's parents were kicking her out shortly after she graduates, and wanted to know if she could stay with us the next semester starts when she could find a place to stay near campus, and I of course agreed. However when the day came when she was supposed to move out, but my son told me he they are no longer dating, and he is dating another girl in their friend group (who was S's best friend). I asked him if S had a place to stay, and
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    Font - I told him we need to make sure she has a place to stay, but he refused, so I told him I would with or with out him. So long story short, he decided to stay with his father all summer, because she had no where to stay and he didn't want to be around her. Well all that was four to five years ago, but all that time i've kept in contact with S and tried to be there when she needed me. Well she was graduating (and had no one to show up for it), so I of course accepted when she asked me to att
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    Font - I explained that I wouldn't be attending, because S had no one else showing up to her graduation. He didn't know I was in contact with S and I think that just added to how upset he was. I tried to explain, he would have his dad, step-mom, aunt, step- siblings, and 2 sets of grandparents show up, and should try and picture things from her perspective. I couldn't get him to understand, even though I had also already promised to take him to dinner where ever he wanted (with as many other rel
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    Font - FunkyOrange Penguin 23 hr. ago edited 21 hr. ago S Colo-rectal Surgeon [34] You told your son that you would prefer to go to some other kid's graduation rather than his own. I'm all for taking care of children that need it, but to do it at the detriment of my own kid? Nah. YTA. 8.6k Reply Share
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    Font - odubik 18 hr. ago. edited 18 hr. ago S Part ipant [1] YTA You made your own kid leave your house for a summer so that his ex could stay there, and then 4 years later you went to her graduation instead of his. For a quarter of your son's life you have chosen this woman over him. Did you really want a daughter so badly that you had to toss out your son? Reply Share 3.5k
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    Font - starchy2ber 18 hr. ago . Certified Proctologist [27] Op can be cut some slack on giving a homeless teen a place to stay. They had already promised a room to this girl. You can't just pull the rug out last minute - that's callous/morally reprehensible. Also, son was not kicked out - he could have stayed and dealt with the awkwardness. He did have a hand in creating the situation after all. But not attending the son's graduation is awful. Its sad this girl has no one, but it's not life or d
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    Font - Nienna000 11 hr. ago Parta ipant [1] Also this happened years ago, when they were kids in high school. I did some dumb things, said dumb things and acted in an unkind way sometimes as a kid, but I was a kid, immature and still learning about life. Yeah he may have acted like a debut its seems his mum still sees him that way and actually prefers S. 61 ♡ Reply Share
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    Font - Mean_Cantaloupe_5035. 14 hr. ago This answer is the answer. nta for supporting her and staying in touch, YTA for skipping the graduation. 147 Reply Share
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    Font - o Goofy264 11 hr. ago Cut some slack? Op should be given a medal for giving the girl a place to stay 38 Reply Share PileOfSheet88 7 hr. ago You'd give her a medal for clearly prioritising someone else over her own son? No, and it's clear that the son is never going to be able to look at his mother the same again (well deserved imo). 28 ... Reply Share
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    Font - Professional Vast6 15 - 6 hr. ago Right? 'I chose my son's ex over my son at least two times now and our relationship isn't the same because he refuses to understand i'm such a good person and had no other choice. Why is what I did so wrong?' 44 Reply Share
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    Rectangle - Fine_Shoulder_4740. 17 hr. ago Partipant [1] She didn't make him leave. He chose to rather than be around an ex he dumped 248 Reply Share ...
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    Font - Fine_Shoulder_4740. 17 hr. ago Partipant [1] The turnaround from him saying "she needs housing let's help, to not my problem" is horrible that line alone loses a lot of sympathy I might have had for him. 499 Reply Shar
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    Font - GodspeedandGood night . 16 hr. ago. edited 16 hr. ago Shockingly, 15 17 year olds are not exactly beacons of empathy. That doesn't mean you hold the grudge for 5 years as the parent of said child and not attend their fu graduation. 175 Reply Share
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    Font - emmybemmy7 3 • 15 hr. ago She didn't hold a grudge. She committed to the girl first and didn't want to back out bc she had no one. This wasn't a punishment. 265 Reply

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