Dating Fail: Guy Asks to Step Out to Make a Quick Call, Abandons His Date and Blocks Her

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    Font - Date was going great (so I thought), he asked to step outside and make a quick phone call. I said of course. Instead, he left and blocked me on the way out. Edit: thank you everyone who has responded. I feel unworthy of the kindness and support I have received in response to this post. Thank you.
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    Font - A few minutes after he stepped out to take a phone call I went to check on him but couldn't find him. I tried to call him and it went straight to voicemail but I thought maybe that's because he was on the phone with his roommate. Then, I noticed he blocked me on Tinder. Genuinely concerned about his disappearance I called him from a different phone number and asked where he went and if everything was okay?
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    Font - He said he just wasn't attracted to me in person, so he went home. Prior to our date we had been on the phone for hours, him hamming and making me laugh, begging me to let him come over. So I asked if my pictures don't accurately represent me. Am I catfishing? Did i say or do something specific to turn him off?
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    Font - He said again he just wasn't attracted to me in person. I asked why he didn't just tell me, and he said he didn't know how to. I understand not being attracted to me but I didn't do or say anything to merit him lying and leaving. I'm hygienic, I had just showered, brushed my teeth, I floss, use perfumed soaps, lotions, and sprays. I put in effort so I know he wasn't offended by a disrespectful appearance or smell. I'm self aware enough to pick up on discomfort or if I've said something of
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    Font - I'm confused, hurt, and feel like less than human garbage. It's very embarrassing to admit this happened to me.
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    Font - Kyra Viola 22 hr. ago We can't help who we are attracted to of course, so nothing you could have done there, but he could definitely have been mature and polite about it. No need to literally run away from the date he's on. Super easy to just wrap things up early with a quick "hey, thanks for tonight but I better head home." The fact that he lied and ran away is embarrassing for him, not for you. 267 Reply Share
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    Font - jillkimberley OP. 22 hr. ago It was disappointing that we connected so well on the phone and he complimented my pictures, then wasn't attracted in person, but I can accept that. But I'm having a really hard time coming to terms with the fact that he lied about stepping out real quick and then just left. I appreciate you stating that it's embarrassing for him but now I can't stop questioning what is so wrong with me. 85 Reply S
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    Font - Kyra Viola 21 hr. ago There is nothing wrong with you. Some people are not ready to date. Obviously don't know what his story is but for whatever reason he was too much of a coward to face the fact that he was out on a date with a person - someone that's as vulnerable as he is in that moment, someone who's been nervous and excited to meet him, someone who has made an effort to give him a shot, and that he should respect you enough to not insult you by lying or sneaking away from the date
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    Human body - jillkimberley OP · 21 hr. ago Everything you said is so sweet it made me cry. Thank you.
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    Font - U DramaticAd4666 16 hr. ago Dude fell in love with you. But he was supposed to only get some hookups as he is on leave as a CIA field operative. He have a loving wife and kids he misses very much from his life before the agency and you reminded him of her. He then realized he cared about you and want you to instead have a real relationship. As he sat with you he realized that you don't deserve to be played or even have your life in danger one day. Ghosting you the way he did was the only
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    Font - Schlag96 17 hr. ago Nothing wrong with you. Nobody goes on dates without finding the other person's photos attractive. In person chemistry, however, is a whole different thing and is very rare. (In my seven years experience dating, I'd say 10% of the time) Sorry he handled it so poorly. But think of it as you wasted as little time on him as possible.
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    Font - factory_666 17 hr. ago . Possibly nothing to do with you - he could be a traumatized person, with hidden complexes or mental or personality disorder that he either didn't talk about or didn't know he had - hence irrational behavior or inability to properly express themselves. I would keep that in mind. Hurt people hurt people.
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    Font - HereWeGo_Steelers - 18 hr. ago He's a piece of crap coward who didn't have the balls to just tell you he didn't feel a spark with you. You dodged a bullet girlfriend. Don't you DARE let that kind of garbage make you feel less than. Chin up, there's not a fing thing wrong with YOU. It's not you it's HIM!

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