'She's threatened to break up with me': Guy refuses to take girlfriend's name off lease after she moves in with her ailing grandmother

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    Font - AITA for not letting my gf be removed from the lease? My gf and I lived together for 5 months and it's been going good. But her grandma recently had a fall and requires care and someone to live with her because she was on the ground for hours before gf's mom found her. Our apartment is one of the cheapest and yet I can't afford it alone, my gf wants me to remove her from the lease while she lives with her grandma. But I don't want to live with a roommate anymore and told her she should ke
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    Font - But how is it fair she goes to live with her grandma rent free while I'm stuck with a stranger I don't know when she can continue to pay her half and just live with her grandma? I've told the landlord Im not taking her off the lease and she's threatened to break up with me because of it.
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    Font - whatsmypassword 73. 13 hr. ago S Professor Emeritass [89] YTA, Major, major and May the karma you put out be reflected back to you. She's literally going to help her grandma, she's going to be working to keep her safe and you call that rent free? Seriously? 16.9k Reply S
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    Font - mangomoontea. 12 hr. ago I have been this caregiver, and I can say it is SO MUCH work. I loved my Grandma, and don't regret helping her through the last few months of her life, but just because I didn't pay money to stay there doesn't mean there wasn't a cost. OP is totally TA 4.2k Reply S
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    Font - ali_stardragon 7 hr. ago Absolutely. OP, the price for your GF is a lot of mental and emotional load. She needs you to be there to support her because what she is doing will be tough. She does NOT need you being petty or trying to manipulate her into what you want. 818 Reply
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    Font - Dazzling-Box4393 · 6 hr. ago All because he doesn't want to get a roommate. He want his girlfriend to pay for his rent in a place she doesn't live. Wow. 470 Reply
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    Product - Blueberry Blossom13 11 hr. ago Being a full time caregiver, especially to someone you love, is one of the hardest jobs on earth. I did it for 2 1/2 years after my grandmas stroke until her passing. 806 Reply
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    Font - Stan_of_Cleeves 13 hr. ago YTA. This relationship sounds doomed. It would be reasonable to expect her to cover her half of the rent until you found a roommate. But pay half for the rest of the year for a place she doesn't live in? Just because you don't like roommates? All because her grandmother had an emergency and needs care?! Yikes. 6.4k Reply Share
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    Font - RandomAmmonite. 12 hr. ago (S) One way or the other, she's not paying. Either OP sees the light, apologizes and gets a roommate, or he doesn't and she breaks up with him And he has to get a roommate. One way he ends up with a roommate and a girlfriend, the other way he has a roommate and no girlfriend. That's the choice. 2.4k Reply
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    Font - Spinnerofyarn 11 hr. ago You hit the nail on the head. No matter what, OP's getting a roomie. OP, YTA. 1 587 Reply
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    Font - cryinoverwangxian. 13 hr. ago YTA Let me give you the skinny on falls and the elderly. If they're talking nursing home (and likely a Medicare bed) that means the fall was bad. If she broke her hip, you have to understand that depending on her age, that means she's something like 70-90% more likely to pass in the next six months. The elderly do not bounce back (not that a fractured hip at any age is anything to sneeze at).
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    Font - In short, your girlfriend isn't going to be staying rent free. Her "rent" will be providing palliative care for her grandmother, and potentially watching her die by degrees. 3.1k Reply Share
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    Font - TentaclesAndCupcakes. 13 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [23] YTA. You have probably already altered her opinion of you by being so selfish. This relationship isn't going to last much longer. 1.7k Reply Share
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    Font - AspiringCrone 13 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [20] YTA. And yes, she probably will break up with you. You value her more as a roommate than a love. 1.3k Reply Share
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    Font - katsmeow44 13 hr. ago Remove her from your lease. And then remove her from your life. It's UNFATHOMABLE that someone could be that selfish. How can someone possibly survive at this deficit of compassion, integrity, or empathy for someone they claim to love enough to cohabitate with. Cut her loose, so she can get exactly what she deserves For instance, a man that gives a about her YTA. 951 Reply Share

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