'Are you serious?': Tone-deaf 'Beggar Bride' tries to cash in, asks woman she only met ONCE to be her bridesmaid

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Nov 13, 2022 12:00 PM EST

This bridesmaid did not hold back when she was asked a pretty awkward question by someone she literally just met. Posted to the r/ChoosingBeggars subreddit, this woman detailed the story and shared screenshots of their text conversation. Basically, the OP went to a wedding and gave an exceptionally nice gift. She met a woman there who she barely knows - and this "Beggar Bride" reached out with an interesting request. It starts innocently enough: the bride remembered OP from the wedding and wants to ask her a question. She sends a text noting that she had someone drop out of her wedding party and now, she probably needs some extra wedding presents. This bride adds that she does have a registry but she drops a bombshell at the end of their text conversation, sparking discussions in the comments section. This is one bride who won't be getting an invite to the OP's wedding any time soon. 

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    Font - dr/ChoosingBeggars Posted by u/NothappyJane Beggar Bride asks stranger to be bridesmaid because she gives expensive gifts - from wedding shaming FB page I just... I met this woman once at a wedding where we were both bridesmaids. Apparently the bride told her my gift was "generous" so she wanted me to be her bridesmaid too to cash in? That's a hard pass. I'm wondering now why her other bridesmaid dropped out Hey girl what's up? I got a snap from you but it got deleted before I could read
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    The OP shared her screenshots from the exchange

    Font - Hey girl what's up? I got a snap from you but it got deleted before I could read it lol sorry i don't know why that happen i just have a question so drop out of my wedding and i wanted to know if you want to be in it like a bridesmaid Are you serious? I'm not trying to be rude. I figure you'd ask one of your sisters or cousins? We've only met once at wedding.
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    Font - ya i was just thinking cause told me how much you gave them for a wedding gift it was really generous and you were her bridesmaid lol I'm going to have to say no. But I wish you and the best of luck! well we're registered at bed bath and beyond if u wanna get us anything Imao When is the wedding? aug but we have sooo many ppl coming so we can't invite everyone sorry Message... +
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    ...And Redditors in the comments had A LOT of thoughts

    Font - asianabsinthe Wrap a giant gift of coal. Bonus points if you can make it so coal dust explodes all over their living room when they open it. €42 € Reply Share anxious_apostate 3 yr. ago Why not glitter? €25 € Reply Share ...
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    Font - indiegold- And here I was thinking people get married out of love and not because they want to be showered with expensive gifts.
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    Font - Kristenglam wow. I would've SNAPPED. How disgusting of her.
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    Maybe she's a 'if you can't handle me at my worst' type of person

    Font - MamieJoJackson +1 Sounds like one of those folks who takes the "It never hurts to ask" concept to mean, "I can ask- demand whatever I want of whomever I want, and they can't get offended because it was just a question!" You know she has a Facebook full of garbage like, "I'm not rude, I'm just honest", and all the "If you can't handle me at my worst" type crap. Nah, we can't handle you love, because you are always just the worst.
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    Handwriting - Kaneshadow Being a greedy scumbag aside.... Why would you TELL HER THE TRUE REASON. Good Lord
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    Some people thought maybe the bridezilla was just a little lonely or awkward

    Font - ilyenia These people don't give gifts because of love. They give gifts for the attention of "look at the awesome thing I did for you" Bridezilla can't comprehend that maybe the "friend" doesn't act the same way. Bridezilla probably thinks it's a huge compliment to recognize the expensive gift. Very likely too, she doesn't have real friends. Aka, she has no one she can be a bridesmaid for. So if some almost stranger wanted her to be a bridesmaid, she'd jump at the chance, because it might
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    Font - ScipioLongstocking My only guess is she has no actual friends. All of her friendships are based on what the other person can offer her. These type of people have a new best friend every month. They can come off as fun and nice, but after a while you realize that they will do absolutely nothing for you, while expecting you to bend over backwards for them.
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    Font - TheReelDurial321 Still get me a gift though. PS: you're not invited xoxo
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    Human body - republlicnt You should send her a really nice card. Only a card.
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    Most commenters saw right through her opportunistic 'shakedown' attempt

    Font - NothappyJane OP Do people think their weddings are an opportunity to shakedown everyone in their life. The audacity
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    This was definitely a "Karen" move

    Font - NothappyJane OP How to ruin friendships and speak to the manager, a life guide by Karen
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    Font - Wizmaxman "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take" - Karen
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    Font - SoraForBestBoy Wow, this is next level tackiness
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    Font - aboutlikecommon The casual 'lol after admitting she's only asking for the gift is the icing on the cake. You should tell her that although you were uncomfortable with the bridesmaid role, you'd have enthusiastically given the same kind of gift as a guest - if only there'd been space for you. (Good luck to the groom marrying this prize!)
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    Font - trixter21992251 If you wanna get us anything Imao And the prize for awkward Imao goes to...
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  • 19
    Font - WinterF19 Parents, this is why you have to say no to your kids sometimes; you don't want them to grow up this entitled
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    Font - faithle55. I'm trying to comprehend the mind- set of someone who would not only invite someone they don't even know purely because they think they'll get a 'generous' gift, but tell them outright that that is the reason, and think that this will work. But I can't, because there are too many stupidities for my little brain to encompass.
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