Wife Backs Out of Family Christmas Dinner After Deluded MIL Rejected Her ‘Dessert Sample’, Idiotic Husband Calls Wife Unreasonable

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Eleonora Bader
Nov 23, 2022 10:00 AM EST

Christmas is not far away, and with that being said, it's not surprising that Reddit is filling up with some holiday horror stories. Still, this one has got our jaws on the floor. How daft and inconsiderate does one have to be to adhere to a sick tradition, such as this one? Needless to say, Redditers were appalled when a man uploaded a post to the AITA subreddit, genuinely asking if he was in the wrong for getting mad at his wife in a rotten situation. 

 

The case goes as follows: His mother-in-law asked all the women (Are the men incapable of cooking?) in the family to send 'samples' of the desserts they were planning on bringing to Christmas dinner. These poor women then wait for the results, as if it were a cooking challenge, and then she lets them know if they made the 'pass' to be on the food menu. Shocked? Same.

 

The man who uploaded the post said that his wife had been complaining about this (stupid) tradition and that she thought that his mother was deliberately rejecting every dessert sample she sent — because this is apparently not the first time. His mother does this for all holidays. Boy is there a lot to unpack here. Drama obviously ensues, and it's incredibly entertaining, even though it's also kind of sad. Scroll down to read about this crazy mess of a situation.

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  • 01
    Font - r/AmItheAsshole Posted by u/user119975444 4 hours ago AITA for calling my wife unreasonable for backing out of spending Christmas with my family after my mother rejected her cookie sample"?
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    Font - Context: For every holiday, My mother would ask the women in the family (my sisters, sister in-law, my wife, my female cousins) to send "samples" of the desserts they plan to bring to the celebration for testing and to see if these desserts could make it to the "food menu". My wife has been complaining about my mother
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  • 03
    Font - deliberately rejecting every dessert sample she sent. So many times my mother has told her that she's being honest and keeping the guests best interest at heart. Yet my wife still thought that my mother is deliberately excluding her since 2 of her dessert samples were rejected before.
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    Font - For this year's Christmas my mother is doing the same thing but this time, she told every woman who are participating to make a "cookie sample" and send it to her for testing. My wife took it as a challenge and to be honest she worked really hard to make a good sample and sent it to my mother days ago and the results just came in yesterday.
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    Font - I came home from work and found my wife upset. I asked what's wrong and she told me that my mother rejected the sample she sent and decided to exclude her baking from the food list/menu for christmas this year. I didn't know what to say but she then told me she was backing out of the invitation to attend christmas with my family. I was stunned when I heard her make this statement. I tried to talk to
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  • 06
    Font - her but she said "it was done" I called her unreasonable to decide to bail on the whole family over some cookie sample...that's just freaking crazy and quite unreasonable. We had a full on argument about it and she stated that my mother caused this but I told her that my mother is pretty serious and careful about the food she offers to the guests since we are
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    Font - going to have relatives coming from all sides of country. She told me to stop mentioing it. Later I heard her cry despite telling her that her baking is amazing and people have preferences that's all.
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    Font - AITA for insisting that her decision was unreasonable? Info. If you're asking whose cookie sample made it to the menu, the answer is my sister and my 2 cousins.
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    Font - Info Few things to put on here: 1. My wife wasn't the only one whose sample was rejected. We have SIL's (brother's wife) and my younger sister's. 2. My mother did not force anyone to participate, it was up to whoever wanted to take part.
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    Font - 3. This is just about the dessert since my mother tends to be very careful in this category but for other types of foods. like that is Dishes/appetizers/salads/stuff welcome as she stated.
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    Font - Update: Great!, so I just got off the phone with my brother and he told me that his wife is doing the same thing as my wife and that she has decided to back out of the invitation to spend christmas with family as well. Turns out my wife must've told her about her decision and she decided to follow her lead. My brother
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    Font - is pissed saying my wife is encouraging his wife to do this. I see that the problem has just gotten bigger now. Who knows, my younger sister might join in and decide not to go as well. I don't know how this got out of control so quickly. I guess we'll try to have a discussion with my mother about this soon and see how it goes.
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    Rectangle - ZealousidealWin81284 hr. ago & 29 More ✩ So, correct me I'm wrong, but for years and years your mother has demanded that all the women (why not men too?) in your family send in samples. For years and years your wife has tried her
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    Font - hardest to appease your mother, had pushed herself to the limit, and has been left completely and utterly demoralised each and every time by a humiliating tradition enforced by the holiday tyrant. And, even worse, her shame was publically put on display each and every year as other family members would no
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    Font - doubt notice that, once again, her food was not chosen. Finally, after producing something she was unbelievably proud of, she was once again left embarrassed and most likely deeply hurt as she was deemed not good enough for yet another year. This is the straw that broke
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    Font - the camel's back and she decides she has had enough of her humiliation and that she will not give her cruel MIL the satisfaction of seeing her discomfort on such a big day. She makes a boundary that many would have made a long time prior.
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    Font - And her husband tells her she is unreasonable for setting up boundaries? Dude. Come on. You know YTA. 26.9k Share
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    Font - Old-Host-57-4 hr. ago Thanks! This summarizes it. Even before recent events, OP was the AH by not objecting to the holliday tyrant and by just accepting his moms asumption only women would cook. YTA! 5.4k Share
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    Font - Valor816 3 hr. ago BTW OP, Is your holiday tyrant Mum at least impartial? Does her cooking ever "Not make the cut"? Or is she infallible and only your wife excluded?
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    Font - sraydenk 2 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [10] Notice in the edit the to women who married into the family, and the younger sister were rejected. 2.1k Share
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    Font - kateln - 2 hr. ago And it's still ONLY the women who're asked to cook anything. 1.2k Share
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    Font - IGotTheAnswer65. 2 hr. ago The men have to Gladiator fight over who gets to carve the turkey 1.0k Share
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    Font - Available_Ad_6063 · 4 hr. ago Can they ask for a sample of the turkey before they agree to go to Christmas dinner? 6.4k Share
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    Font - mykidisonhere - 2 hr. ago AND why does anything have to be picked at all? It's not a curated art exhibit. It's cookies. Bring them ALL! Share 296
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    Font - elya_elya_ · 3 hr. ago OP's mom would have a meltdown at my house, my husband does 95% of the cooking. He's a wonderful cook and really enjoys it. He also does the bulk of the food shopping 772 Share
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    Font - Sturgjk. 3 hr. ago Mom must be absurdly wealthy to be tolerated so long for this assholery. Good for your wife. Bad for you. YTA. Share 1.7k
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    Font - Wombatseal 3 hr. ago 2 Asshole Aficionado [17] His mother should be the villain in a hallmark Christmas movie. 1.5k Share
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    Rectangle - certain_people. 3 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [10] Just MIL's way of telling her she doesn't really belong in the family 884 Share
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    Font - sarksch · 4 hr. ago 3 YTA- I'd never in a million years bake samples to be approved. I'm showing up with my food. Eat it or not I really don't care. Your mom is TA and very very weird. 10.6k Share
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