'You are the world’s most diligent gold digger': Money-obsessed girlfriend keeps log of boyfriend's family gift expenses in cringe Christmas story

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    Plant - "Seriously, would you like to be the family accountant since you're already tracking expenses?"
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    Font - AITA for calling my brother's gf a gold digger after she googled the cost of our Christmas gifts? My brother James, has a girlfriend, Lindsay, who he's been dating for seven months. He decided to bring her to Christmas at my house (stay over Christmas Eve and leave the next day after lunch). I'd met Lindsay at drinks before this and she seemed nice.
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    Font - When they arrived, Lindsay walked in and complimented my decorations (large tree in the foyer) and asked how much they cost. I was a bit surprised by the question but I just said "more than I'd like" and moved on. Throughout the evening she asked several questions centred around money. She asked my husband how much he paid for our house, my stepdad how much money he made in his previous job, how much my watch cost. She even googled one of our art pieces to see how much it sold for and sta
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    Font - On Christmas morning we all gathered round to open presents and thankfully, Lindsay didn't say anything untoward, so I figured James had spoken to her about her intrusive questions. However, at lunch, we were talking about plans for January and Lindsay loudly said she didn't know how we could afford to do anything in January as she added up the total we'd spent on gifts, and then proudly proclaimed the total amount. The whole table went silent, and honestly I was equal parts shocked and a
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    Font - After they left, my brother messaged me saying I'd really upset Lindsay and was out of line with what I said. I argued that he had said he'd talk to her and he clearly didn't, not that someone should have needed guidance to know how crass her comments were. He is saying I owe both of them an apology, but I think Lindsay's behaviour was disgraceful. My parents say Lindsay was wrong but I probably should have said something in private or they could have, and I shouldn't have said something
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    Font - urReplyisDumb 2 hr. ago edited 2 hr. ago 2 All of these E-S-H and Y- T-A replies are dumbfounding lol. Have any of you people ever had an interaction with an actual human being. In what world is asking people about how much money they make and adding up the totals of Christmas gifts normal? NTA. She was being incredibly rude and obviously making everyone uncomfortable 3.7k Reply Share
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    Font - NJtoOx 2 hr. ago NTA and I really don't get the y t a's It is so unbelievably rude to make so many comments about money. I could see maybe one or two off handed comments, but to fixate on money so much that you tally up how much money was spent on Christmas presents and then announce it to the whole family???
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    Font - Don't apologize to your brother. Why should you? His girlfriend came into your house for Christmas and immediately started questioning you about money and practically appraising everything in your house! She should be apologizing to you, and your brother should be apologizing on her behalf. If someone is rude to you you're allowed to defend yourself and shut them down which is what you did. Maybe next time she'll learn to keep her mouth shut and not constantly talk about money. 910 Reply
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    Font - SandBrilliant2675 3 hr. ago NTA. She came into your house and basically started appraising your net worth of assets like your about to go to auction.... are you sure she's not planning a NYE heist??? Seriously though, your brother had the gall to ring you up and say you upset her, when she's the one asking intrusive financial questions and itemizing your belongings. If I were you, she would not be getting an invite back. NTA. ↑ 613 Reply Share
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    Font - columbospeugeot 2 hr. ago Almost everyone is saying E S H, but this is a clear cut case of NTA. Gf was incredibly crass and rude. 332 Reply Share
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    Font - crockofpot 2 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [35] NTA. I realize there may be more benign explanations for Lindsay's questions (maybe there is a cultural difference, maybe there is some neurodivergence). BUT your family had made an attempt to address it privately, and adding up the amount gifts cost takes some forethought, it wasn't an offhand comment she just blurted out. Plus, you have this bit: Lindsay loudly said she didn't know how we could afford to do anything in January as she added u
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    Font - That's judgey. However well-to-do OP may or may not be is irrelevant; "I don't know how you can afford that" is a rude comment at any income level. What was she hoping to accomplish with that question? "Oh, you're right, brother's gf of less than a year! Let me redo my whole finances!" 313 Reply Share
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    Font - sw33tlips 2 hr. ago NTA - people like her can easily meet the wrong person and it can be way worse than just being called a gold digger.. your brother did not make it clear enough that her inquisitiveness is not polite and yeah he is to be blamed as well .. once is a mistake.. twice or more is a choice 172 Reply Share
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    Font - Little MidnaBall 1 hr. ago ΝΤΑ This is wild. I'm someone who strongly believes the stigma against talking about money is bullsh and mostly just serves to do harm. Everyone should be comfortable talking about how much money they make and be ok talking about what things cost. It would help prevent people from being taken advantage of. And even I think she went way too far.
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    Font - Even if she has some compulsion to know how much things are, or prepare for next year by knowing how much you guys typically spend, she should at least have the courtesy to keep it to herself.
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    Font - Much-Recording9444 1 hr. ago Her asking how much money anyone made, what they paid for a house, adding the cost of gifts IS. CRINGE. Like. Nails. On. A. Chalkboard. Cringe. NTA
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    Font - ICULooking_719900. 1 hr. ago Lindsay sounds like she is setting you all up to be robbed. Sheesh she would've be allowed to come back to my house. And you don't owe her nor him Nada.
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    Font - Agitated-Net-33 · 1 hr. ago one word for your brother: PRENUP ΝΤΑ

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